Tuesday, August 31, 2021

Three Cardinal Scandals

One of the GREAT things about our Selichos is how we stand there SCREAMING abt. how sinful we are. I LOVE that. Instead of pointing fingers at others or getting defensive [as most people do when confronted with their failings] - we emphatically admit it with the hope that we will improve. 

Sadly - that is not always the approach when not reading the Selichos booklet. But the only way to improve is to recognize our faults and then to go abt. fixing them!! 

So in that spirit I will point about 3 HUUUUGE scandals in our community that not enough people are talking abt.  

Gilui Ayayos, Shfichus Domim and Avoda Zara!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gilui Arayos is the parents who give their kids phones and/or open Internet. How is this possible? How can you give them a movie screen that has endless pornography and not supervise them? And then there are the religious schools that allow the students to use such devices. 

A scandal.

Avoda Zara is the two Chasiduyos in particular where if it is not mamesh Avoda Zara - it is borderline [in many but not all cases]. If a human being is at the center of your Avoda and not G-d - it is Avoda Zara.  

Shfichus Domim - Corona kills and it doesn't fall down magically from Mars. It is transmitted from one person to another. Yet, after a year and a half, tens of millions of sick people and well over four million dead, many people still take no precautions. They act as if NOTHING is goin' on. If you take your old parents for a stroll in Harlem in the middle of the night, you are being irresponsible even if they come back in one piece. If one is not careful, even if he didn't kill or harm anyone it is still TERRIBLY irresponsible. Yet, I see before my eyes how many people are carrying on as if nothing is happening. 

Some people say "masks don't work". BY GOLLY!!! Who was the Navi that told them THAT??? The consensus in the medical establishment is to wear masks in closed spaces. There are those who argue and say that it doesn't help. So how can someone say that it definitely doesn't help when there is no proof?? Why shouldn't one be careful JUST IN CASE???!! Even if in the end we discover that masks don't help - you were still doing the GREAT MITZVA of trying to preserve the health of yourself and those around you.      

Open Orthodoxy



Since transparency is a favorite buzzword in today's enlightened society, I feel compelled to warn my beloved readers of my articles and essays, that this article is not about what you may think, given its title. I am not referring to radical ideas and behavior that masquerade as remaining within the boundaries of Jewish tradition and halachic norms. Rather, this article is about our synagogue here in Jerusalem that, because of governmental health regulations, has been forced to conduct its regular daily prayer services outside, rather than in the building of the synagogue itself.

The neighbors in the adjoining apartment building have been kind enough to allow the synagogue to erect a tent in its parking lot, and we conducted the Sukkoth holiday in its entirety in that parking lot. We did so, naturally, with proper social distancing and all who attended wore masks. In spite of the obvious difficulties that this engendered – we had very hot weather here in Jerusalem over the holiday – and the fact that quite a number of cats joined in the festivities, we experienced a wonderful holiday, and I felt the prayer services were very meaningful.

Human beings are the most adaptable of all creatures, and, perhaps, the Jewish people are the most adaptable of all human beings. As such, I was impressed but not surprised that the services were orderly, meaningful, heartfelt, and proper. I think that everyone benefited and enjoyed the experience of Orthodox prayer in the open environment of our neighboring parking lot.

One of the interesting, if not beneficial, results of our being in the open was that many people who usually do not regularly attend synagogue seemed to join our group. Perhaps even more importantly, of the many Jews, who, unfortunately, abound here in Israel who have never set foot into a synagogue out of fear of tarnishing their secularism, were witnesses to what synagogue prayers actually look and feel like.

I am certain that they gained a changed perspective from one that they previously held. One of the attributes of our father Abraham was that wherever he went he conducted services to the Lord, and called onto God's name so that even passersby gained an understanding that there is a creator, and that God has entrusted humans with missions of goodness and holiness.

It is this attribute of Abraham that marked him for special greatness and earned him the title of father of the Jewish people and much of human civilization as well. Conducting our prayers in the open afforded us the opportunity to emulate, in our own small way, the activities and mission of our father Abraham. There is a freedom that somehow one feels outside of the confines of the building that one does not feel even within the air-conditioned comfort and splendor of the four walls of a synagogue building.

This feeling is difficult to describe, but, somehow, I felt it to be present within me. This, of course, is only the rumination of an elderly rabbi, but I do not feel that these comments are really off the mark.

I join with all of Israel and the world in hoping and praying that this corona scourge will soon pass. We will then be able to restore ourselves to what we will then call normalcy, though I doubt that it will exactly resemble the old normalcy that we were accustomed to before the Corona pandemic struck.

In any event, we certainly intend to return to the confines of the building of our beloved synagogue and conduct teaching classes, lectures, and prayer services within that building on a very regular basis. With the winter approaching, we will undoubtedly need the protection of the walls of the building, a heating system that functions well and an environment that keeps us healthy and comfortable.

Nevertheless, I am certain that we will all have a taint of nostalgia regarding the times that we were able to pray and conduct our services in the open, for all to witness. Thus, in every difficult situation some measure of goodness and understanding can be extracted, treasured, and incorporated into our new being. So, when we return to our hoped-for normalcy, I think we should attempt to retain some of the gifts of praying in the open and conducting our prayer services under the canopy of heaven directly.

Shabbat Shalom

Berel Wein

Honesty Lies And Avoda Zara

It is quite difficult to get into Israel these days. If you are already here - you can stay. But if you are not and don't have an Israeli passport and want to get in you have a problem. 

One way to get in is with a student visa. So what some people did was claim to be going to Yeshiva when in fact they were not. In other words - they lied [and in some cases they were caught].

This is Avoda Zara. They are serving a god who wants them to get into Israel with a lie. But the True G-d's signature is TRUTH [Shabbos 55b]. He HATES lies [Rashi Yoma 69b ד"ה שהוא אמתי]. There are 4 groups that the שכינה will not receive [Sanhedrin 103b]. One of them is כת השקרנים - Liars. The שכינה wants to have NOTHING to do with them and in addition their pants will go on fire [מקור - nursery rhyme]. 

The Maharal writes in the Netiv HaTochacha [located in the section next to his "Netiv Aryeh"]: 

כת שקרנים דבר זה ידוע כי אין מציאות לדבר שקר כלל ולפיכך כת שקרנים אין רואה פני שכינה. 

Sheker is a non-reality so if that is their world they have no point of contact with the שכינה. 

So if they lie they are not serving the True G-d but an imaginary one. 

That is Avoda Zara. 


Chizzuk From The Nosi

Based On An Authentic Email that found her way into my inbox. 

Dear Faith Leaders,

The National Faith Advisory Board invites you to join an exclusive call with President Trump on Thursday, September 2, 2021 at 2 PM EDT.

We are excited to have you all tune in for the official launch of the National Faith Advisory Board and honored to have President Trump join us to discuss many issues impacting our nation and faith.

The President will say divrei chizzuk in inyanei Emunah, kabbolas ol malchus Shomayim, Bitachon and tfilla before the world will be judged. Each and every one of us will individually pass before G-d and He will decide for life or for death. That is why it is so critical to listen to divrei chizzuk from Kvod Ha-nosi Shlita. Please tune in for the call. Your Rosh Hashana will be completely different and more elevated than it ever was. It is well known that the Nosi is a veritable wellspring of Emunah and Dveykus BaShem. 

He also wants to be elected in 2024 and is already campaigning hard. Fortunately [or unfortunately], Biden has given him much ammunition for his battle.  

G-d bless you and G-d bless America!!!!! 

The Avos On Rosh Hashana

Rosh Hashana is the beginning of the עשרת ימי תשובה. The shofar gets us on the straight and narrow. תקעו בחודש - When we want renewal - we should blow shofar. תקיעה is from the word תקוע - stuck. The pasuk says that a peg is תקוע in a faithful place. The shofar sticks us in the right place. 

והנה ר"ה התחלת עשרת ימי תשובה. כי האלקים עשה האדם ישר. ובכל ר"ה מתחדש זה הדרך הישר. לכן תוקעין בשופר לאחוז בזה הדרך. ולא לחשוב עוד חשבונות רבים כדאיתא בפרקי דר"א כשעלה משה רבינו ע"ה להר במ' אחרונים תקעו בשופר משה עלה להר שלא יטעו עוד אחר ע"ז. כמו כן תוקעין בר"ה לעמוד בזה ההתחדשות שלא לנטות עוד מדרך הישר. ז"ש תקעו בחודש שופר. כשמתחדש דרך החדש. לאחוז בזה ההתחדשות להיות יתד תקוע ונאמן. ומלכיות זכרונות שופרות לאחוז בדרכי האבות. 

Malchiyos - Avraham who accepted G-d's Kingship and called Him אדון. 
Zichronos - Yitzchak who always remembered Hashem and it is as if his ashes are always on the mizbeach reminding Hashem of his sacrifice. Hashem remembers us for the good if we remember Him. 
Shofaros  - Yaakov. His form is on the Throne of Glory. He was beautiful like Adam Harishon. "שופריה" - his beauty was like Adam who was the handiwork of Hashem. We merit this beauty thru Torah [there was shofar blowing at Matan Torah]. Yaakov's Middah was Torah. הקול קול יעקב. 

מלכיות בחי' אברהם אבינו שהקנה להקב"ה שמים וארץ והודיע מלכותו בעולם. כמ"ש למען אברהם שקראך אדון. זכרונות בחי' יצחק שאפרו צבור לזכרון תמיד. והנה כל מדותיו של הקב"ה מדה כנגד מדה. ולפי שיצחק אע"ה לא שכח את הבורא אפילו רגע אחת בעולם. כמו כן אפרו תמיד לזכרון. וכן צריכין לקבל על עצמו בר"ה לזכור את השי"ת תמיד. כי כל איש לפי מה שזוכר את הבורא כן נזכר לטובה למעלה. ושופרות בחי' יעקב צורתו חקוקה תחת כסא הכבוד. שהוא שופרי' דאדה"ר יציר כפיו של הקב"ה. ולזה זוכין ע"י התורה. וע"ז רמז השופר לעורר כח התורה וקול יעקב: [שפ"א תרס"ב] 

לרפואת אבי מורי שיחי' בתוך שח"י. 

Accept The King First

After the rebellion of Avshalom the Jews accepted Dovid back and Shevet Yehuda was last. Dovid wasn't happy with this. Why were they last? We have to be FIRST to accept the King of kings. The Jews as a nation were first to accept מלכות שמים.  

מ"ש לעיל שתמליכוני עליכם שעיקר המלכות על בני ישראל. מצינו בדוד המע"ה כאשר מרדו בו בימי אבשלום אח"כ השלימו עמו שלח לזקני יהודה למה תהיו אחרונים להשיב את המלך אח"כ אמרו שאר השבטים עשר ידות לי במלך כו' ויקש דבר איש יהודה לפי שהראו להם כתב מהמלך [כיוון שישראל הראו ליהודה את האיגרת שבו דוד כתב לזקני יהודה ושאל אותם למה שיהיו אחרונים להשיב את המלך - רש"י] ע"ש סוף שמואל. ככל הדבר הזה יהי' לעתיד כשיבואו כל האומות והשרים ויקבלו עול מלכותו ויודו לשמו. ואעפ"י שהם ע' אומות יהי' יד בנ"י בראשונה. כי הם קבלו מלכותו בראשונה. כדאיתא הם המליכוני על הים ופסוק ראשון של מלכות הוציאו בנ"י מכח אל הפועל ה' ימלוך לעולם ועד. נמשכו אחר דרך אברהם אבינו. לכן אברהם קנין אחד וישראל קנין אחד. והכתוב מעיד עליהם ותרועת מלך בו. ולכן בכל ר"ה אומר הקב"ה אמרו לפני מלכיות שתמליכוני עליכם דייקא. ולא תהיו אחרונים להשיב את המלך: [שפ"א תרס"ב] 

לרפואת אבי מורי שיחי'

Soul Life

Three parts of man: 1] Afar min Haodomo - Reshaim. 2] Nishmas Chaim - Tzadikim. 3] Nefesh Chaya - Mediocre. We ask for true life. Nishmas Chaim. The life of Tzadikim, the life of the soul.  

החיים שמבקשין בר"ה הוא חיות הנשמה. דכ' וייצר כו' את האדם עפר מן האדמה ויפח באפיו נשמת חיים ויהי האדם לנפש חי'. והם ג' בחי'. והם ג' ספרים הנפתחים בר"ה שבו נברא האדם ונתחדש אלה הג' בחי'. עפר מן האדמה הוא הגוף שעומד למיתה ואין בו חיים וזה מדת הרשעים שאין הנשמה מאיר בהם ולכן מקבל רק חיית הגוף בעוה"ז עפר מן האדמה. ויפח באפיו נשמת חיים הוא בחי' הצדיקים שאפילו במיתתן קרוין חיים. כבר פרשנו שהם מביאים חיות הנשמה בגוף וגם הגוף שלהם נקרא חי. וז"ש חי חי (כו') יודך חי בנשמה חי בגוף. והוא בכח התורה ומצות דכ' וחי בהם. ולכן נקרא הצדיק חי. ויהי האדם לנפש חי' הם הבינונים שזה וזה שופטן. ויש להם נפש ורצון להתדבק בהנשמה. ומ"מ אינו מתהפך כולו להיות נקרא חי. רק מ"מ הוא כלי שהנשמה מאירה בו לפרקים. ואדה"ר הי' מוכן קודם החטא להיות כולו נשמת חיים. ואחר החטא כ' כי עפר אתה ואל עפר תשוב. פי' לפי שעפר אתה. שהי' מוכן להיות כולו נשמה. וכן אח"כ בנ"י בקבלת התורה אמרתי אלקים אתם כו' אכן כאדם תמותון. וכמו דאיתא מעשה בראשית לדעתם נבראו. כמו כן כפי החיות שבוחר האדם בר"ה כך נותנין לו חיים. וע"ז מבקשין זכרנו לחיים. ונקרא ראש השנה שבו התחדשות הנשמה שהיא בראש: [שפ"א תרס"ג] 

לרפואת אבי מורי ר' יצחק יונה בן חנה בתוך שח"י

Reishis

The Jews are called ראשית [as in קודש ישראל לה' ראשית תבואתו]. We are not ראש. We are לי ראש [which is the letters ישראל]. We have a head. So our ראשית has a ראש [which transcends nature]. We connect to the one who has no ראשית b/c he is forever! 

ראש השנה מיוחד באמת לבני ישראל שנק' ראשית. ישראל לי ראש. ונקראו ראשית ולא ראש. שראשית הוא לעולם סמוך. שאין לבנ"י ראש בפ"ע אלא שהם למי שאין לו ראשית ותכלית. ונקראו ראשית תבואתו. ולכן כ' תהי' לראש ולא לזנב. ולא כ' תהי' ראש. רק לראש. שיהיו דבוקים אל הראש ולא אל הזנב שהוא ההנהגה הטבעיות. שהוא בחי' זנב כמ"ש במד' על כל מעשה בראשית הן אלה קצות דרכיו. ולכן ר"ה לישראל אבל הוא בכסה כמ"ש במ"א מזה: [שפ"א תרס"ג] 

Going Beyond Din

The pnimiyus of Din is Malchus. We LOVE Malchus. So we willingly accept the Din which brings us beyond Din to Rachamim. 
 
כתיב אשרי העם יודעי תרועה ובזוה"ק דמתברין ההיא תרועה כמו ויודע בהם אנשי סוכות. כי באמת הדין הוא רק מכסה. אבל לפנים משורת הדין נמצא הרחמים כמ"ש שיתף עמו מדת הרחמים. א"כ הוא גנוז תוך הדין. והנה מילוי אותיות דין גי' מלכות. ל"ת ו"ד ו"ן גי' מלכות. שתכלית הדין כדי לידע דאית דין ודיין כמ"ש והאלקים עשה שיראו מלפניו. אבל בנ"י דכ' ומלכותו ברצון קבלו עליהם. והקדימו ה' ימלוך לעולם ועד. לכן כ' ותרועת מלך בו. שהם מקבלין מלכותו ברצון. ובזה יודעי תרועה באור פניך יהלכון שהוא התגלות מדת הרחמים ושוברין המחיצה ובאין לפנים משורת הדין כנ"ל: [שפ"א תרס"ג] 

The Days Of Teshuva And The Secret Of The Ibbur

 HERE!!!

[Shhhhhhh - I reveal some secrets...] 

Be A Moreh Li-tov

Rabbi Akiva Stopler

 The brilliant and iconoclastic Chasidic thinker Rav Menachem Mendel of Kotzk (1787-1859) demanded for himself and his loyal followers uncompromising honesty and self-scrutiny. His obsession with the truth inspired him to suggest many original and creative aphorisms. “If I am I because I am I, and you are you because you are you, then I am I and you are you. But if I am I because you are you and you are you because I am I, then I am not I and you are not you.” 

In other words, the Kotzker insisted that one’s identity be independent of others and come from within. If we are defined by how we measure up to others, then true self-identity cannot exist. 

The Kotzker also said: “There are rebbes who are so great that they can revive the dead. But reviving the dead is Gd’s business. A rebbe needs to be able to revive the living”. 

In other words, the Kotzker required that his followers be more than observers but participants, eschewing both mediocrity and rote. He saw his mandate as a rebbe to challenge and inspire his followers to serve HaShem with introspection, passion and originality. The Kotzker’s affinity to unadulterated truth is evident in his many original and non-conformist interpretations of the words of Chazal. 

A perfect example of this is how he understood the passage of Y’fas Toar - the woman of beautiful form, featured in this week’s Parsha. Here the Torah offers a dispensation to the Jewish soldier to fulfill his desire with an otherwise prohibited pagan captive woman. In the words of our sages, “Lo dibra Torah ela k’neged Yetzer HaRah - The Torah spoke only in response to the evil inclination (Sifre)”. The classic interpretation of the commentators is that without this dispensation, the soldier might succumb to her beauty and take her illicitly. The Torah therefore offers a permissible venue, which extricates the soldier from sin. The problem with this interpretation is that the typical Biblical Jewish soldier was righteous beyond fault and amongst the nation’s spiritual elite. How could the Torah entertain the possibility that he would succumb to his evil inclination? Why is a dispensation needed for a soldier who would never entertain living with a pagan woman? 

The Kotzker therefore offers a completely novel way to understand the Torah’s dispensation of Y’fas Toar. The Almighty wants us to feel alive. We accomplish this by struggling to make good choices. The satisfaction that comes from these successful choices endows us with a deep sense of purpose and zest for life. Therefore, if the Torah hadn’t permitted the captive woman there would have been no struggle and no challenge. The righteous soldier would never have entertained even a remote possibility of taking her. But HaShem wants us to struggle and deliberate. He wants us to choose and grow from these challenges. He therefore permitted the captive woman in order to tempt the righteous soldier. She was now a possibility, a viable candidate for marriage. Now that there was a level playing field, the soldier could choose to reject this beautiful pagan woman and thereby enjoy the benefits of choosing a more noble and virtuous life. This is what the sages mean by, “Lo dibra Torah ela k’neged Yetzer HaRah- The Torah spoke only in response to the evil inclination”. The dispensation was offered in order to allow the evil inclination a legitimate voice to tempt the righteous soldier. The soldier now had the ability to choose good over evil and reject the machinations of the evil inclination. 

Another example of the creative and original Kotzker style is found in the passage of the Ben Sorer U’moreh - the wayward and rebellious son. This young 13 year old is guilty of stealing money from his father and feasting on rare meat and a modicum of wine. These minor crimes are seen as a harbinger for future dysfunction. His rebellious behavior makes it clear to Beis Din that he will degenerate into a depraved individual and must therefore incur the punishment of execution. He is punished for what he may do in the future, not for the sins he actually committed. In the words of Chazal (Sanhedrin 72a), “Ben Sorer U’moreh neherag al shem sofoh” - the wayward and rebellious son is put to death because of his end” i.e. his inevitable future. The problem with this interpretation is that the Almighty always judges man, “ba’asher hu sham - in his present reality (Vayeira 21:17)”. When the Almighty saved Yishmael from his terminal illness, the angels pleaded with Him not to perform this miracle because in the future Yishmael’s offspring would persecute the Jewish people. HaShem responded that He always judges an individual according to his present deeds and not for what his future holds. How then can we punish the Ben Sorer U’moreh for his future infractions? 

The Kotzker therefore creatively interprets “al shem sofoh - because of his second name and description”. He may be a Sorer - wayward but his main offense lies in his second description Moreh - one who teaches and directs others to follow in his wayward path. A teenager who errs and succumbs to temptation can always be rehabilitated. However, one who truly believes the veracity of a life of crime, as evidenced from the fact that he guides and motivates others to rebel like him, will be forever entangled in the web of sin. He is therefore being punished for his present criminal leadership not for his future crimes. The true measure of an individual is how he affects others. 

My good friend and colleague, Rabbi Kalman Packouz zt’l, shared the following anecdote about the power of leadership and hashpa’a. When Maran HaGaon Harav Shach zt’l came to Yeshivas Aish HaTorah to attend the bris of Harav Noach Weinberg’s son Yehuda, he was blown away meeting so many baalei Teshuva. He couldn’t believe that there were so many Bnai Torah who had previously been unobservant and now appeared acclimated and well grounded spiritually. This experience changed Rav Shach’s attitude toward the Teshuva movement in a most positive way. He then made his famous bold and powerful statement. “Since the attribute of Mercy is far greater than that of Divine justice, it stands to reason that, if one man, yemach shemo, can be responsible for the murder of 6 million Jews, so one man can also save and rehabilitate 6 million”. 

My esteemed father Rabbi Pinchas Stolper Shlita merited influencing thousands on their journey to observance and a Torah way of life as the national director of NCSY. When Maran HaGaon Rav Yitzchok Hutner zt’l heard a rumor that my father might give up the leadership of NCSY, he spent an hour impressing on my father the urgency not to do so. In his loud and passionately booming voice, Rav Hutner told my father, “If you’re physically tired and emotionally drained, zolst foren in Honolulu arein - travel to Honolulu! Zolst leigen oifen beach - lie on a deserted beach! Nisht lernin - don’t learn! But gather your strength to return to the holy work that you are so devoted to. Be a moreh l’tov, inspiring others to return under the wings of the Divine Presence.” 

In Conclusion: Firstly, the Almighty is a, “Melech chafetz ba’chaim” – a King who wants us to feel alive. We accomplish this by standing up to life’s challenges and making the right choices. The ensuing feeling of accomplishment and success gives one a sense of vitality and a joie de vivre that brings passion and meaning to life. It is better to be slightly challenged than live a complacent and sheltered life. When opportunity knocks on the door, such as spearheading a chesed drive or giving a shiur, seize the day and rise to the occasion. HaShem wants us to be challenged as we see from the way the Kotzker understood the passage of Y’fas Toar. Secondly, the worst sin is to be a Moreh L’rah –to lead others astray as the Kotzker understood the gravity of the decadence of the Ben Sorer u’moreh. Therefore, our goal in life must be to leave the world a better place than when we entered. This happens when we inspire others to lead a more noble and altruistic life. Each and every one of us, no matter where we stand on the spiritual spectrum, can contribute. A smile or an encouraging word can create a domino effect that makes a difference in someone’s life. Our mandate is to be Mashpiah L’tov by sharing the Derech Hashem with others. Wishing you and your loved ones a K’sivah V’chasima Tovah –A joyous, healthy and prosperous New Year.

If you do for others, you will never lose out

 Shimon Deutsch stood before the large audience and wiped a tear from his eye. It was almost surreal. His children and grandchildren had all come in for the momentous occasion of the dedication of a Sefer Torah. There were also gedolei roshei yeshivah of the English community, many friends and acquaintances, as well as strangers who had come to pay their respects and display kavod haTorah. 

Several rabbanim had already spoken, and now it was time for Shimon, who was attired in a suit specially tailored for the occasion, to deliver his derashah. Overwhelmed, he surveyed the crowd and then he began to speak: “First and foremost, I want to thank everyone for coming here today. My family and I are eternally grateful for everything that we have. But what you see today does not tell the entire story.” 

Then he proceeded to tell his story: Nearly 60 years ago, when I was only 11 years old, war broke out. Like so many others, I lost my entire family. But since I was considered a useful worker, I was sent to a concentration camp to join a work detail. Over the years, I was sent from one camp to another. Finally, after many traumatic years, the war was over, and it was time to make a life for myself. Now completely alone in the world, I wandered around until I made my way to England. Although I was already 18 years old, I was a total novice in learning; I had not learned in a formal setting since I was 11. 


I approached the rosh yeshivah of a British yeshivah and introduced myself to him. He was very kind and gracious and invited me to look around. But I told him I was there not just for a visit, but that I really wanted to come and learn. He listened carefully to my story and very much wanted to help. At the same time, he felt I was much better off in a beginners’ yeshivah, where I could make up for the many years that I had missed. “You see,” he explained, “most of the boys who are learning here were not exposed to any aspect of the war. Many of them were fortunate enough to learn without interruption for the past few years. Of course, it’s not your fault you missed out, and I most certainly will accept you if you would like me to. But I think that for your own good, you should try to make up for the lost time elsewhere and then come back.” But my mind was made up. I decided that I was going to at least try to make it there. So I hung up a sign that said, “Anybody who wants to learn with Shimon Deutsch, please approach me. I will be sitting in the front of the beis midrash on the righthand side.” I gave myself three days, hoping that someone would ask me to learn with him. On the first day, I walked in filled with optimism. Then I noticed someone approaching me. He leaned toward me, took a sefer from my shtender, and then apologized for disturbing me. I was devastated. I had thought that he was going to ask me to learn with him. The rest of the day passed uneventfully. I was still stuck without a chavrusa. I woke up the next morning hoping that things would be different. But again, it was much of the same. I sat there all alone, with no one to learn with and nobody to talk to. I was beginning to lose hope. Finally, mercifully, the day came to an end. I had tears in my eyes when I walked out. But I had promised myself that I would do this for one more day. The third and final day began. I knew that one of two things was going to happen: either I would find someone to learn with, or I would try my hand at something else. I had no intention of going to a program for beginners if this did not work out. Still, Hashem could never say that I hadn’t given it my best shot. And I desperately wanted this to work. But nothing seemed to be falling into place. 

First seder passed. Nothing. Second seder went by. Nothing. Now I was down to the final seder. It was now or never. I couldn’t help but look at the clock and wonder if my salvation would still come. The seconds ticked by, and before long it was over. I closed my Gemara and began my very long walk to the door. I knew this was it. I had no idea where my life’s journey would take me. But clearly, yeshivah was not for me. 

Then, as I reached the door, two boys came running up to me. “Are you Shimon?” they asked. Startled, I nodded my head in the affirmative. “Hello, my name is Moshe,” one of the boys said by way of introduction. Pointing to his friend, he said, “And this is Tuvia. I’m so sorry it took us so long to come over to you. We came three days late to the zman. We just saw your sign on the bulletin board and came right over to you. We hope it’s not too late. Would you be able to learn with each one of us? You could learn with me during the morning seder, and with Tuvia in the afternoon.” I was speechless. I really had no idea what to say. I was so overcome with emotion that I began to cry. When I was able to speak, I thanked them profusely and agreed to learn with each of them. 


As he relived these moments, Shimon tried to catch his breath and then continued. “Well, that is how my story begins. I learned with each of these boys, and they helped me catch up to speed. Within a few years, I was completely caught up. “If you’re wondering if these two young men lost out because of the time they sacrificed for me, then I must reveal to you the name of the yeshivah, and who these boys are. The yeshivah was Yeshivas Toras Emes, whose rosh yeshivah was the famed Rav Moshe Schneider. Tuvia is Rav Yitzchak Tuvia Weiss, and Moshe is Rav Moshe Sternbuch, both of whom are greatly respected and renowned rabbanim of the Eidah HaChareidis of Yerushalayim. “Always remember: If you do for others, you will never lose out.”

R' Yechiel Spero 

Aseh Doche Lo Taaseh!!!!!!!!!!

 HERE!!!

לזכות רפואת אבי מורי 

Delicious.

Do It Yourself

Rabbi Yitzchak Shmuel Ackerman 

 Vay’yisrotzatzu habanim b’kirba, the children ran [figuratively] inside of her. (Braishis 25:22) Vay’yisrotzatzu habanim b’kirba: When she [Rivka Emeinu] stood at batei knesses and batei midrash, Yaakov moved convulsively to go out... And when she passed by houses of idolatry, Esau ran and moved convulsively to go out. (Braishis Rabbah 63:6) Stood at batei knesses and batei midrash: With reference to batei knesses and batei midrash it says stood, implying that she did this regularly, that this was her main activity, to serve Hashem. With reference to houses of idolatry it says passed by, that she quickly passed them on her way. (Maharzu, ibid) Note: The Maharzu is commenting on the text in the Midrash Rabbah. Standard texts of Rashi omit the distinction between Rivka’s standing at places of Torah and passing by houses of idolatry, and attribute the running to Yaakov rather than to Esau. And the redactor on Rashi incorrectly cites Braishis Rabbah 63:7. It is Braishis Rabbah 63:6. Rabbi Yehoshua ben Hananiah: happy is the woman that gave birth to him. (Avos 2:8) From the day that he was born, she did not remove his crib from the study hall, so that only words of Torah would enter his ears. (Ra’av, ibid) 

What is the impact of hearing one side of a phone conversation for much of gestation? It depends on the tone and content of that one sided conversation. If the fetus is hearing words of Torah, such as drashos, ha’aros, divrei chizuk, divrei hisorarus, savlanus, or compassionate tochacha, he or she will absorb that Torah as did Rabbi Yehoshua ben Hananiah. After a baby is born, the phone becomes much more of a challenge to effective parenting. Hearing one side of a conversation deprives an infant, a toddler, a child, and an adult, of direct human contact. That deprivation is most harmful to the youngest of listeners who are not being spoken or listened to. 

Too many parents spend far more time talking on the phone rather than talking with their children. Every time I see a parent pushing a stroller while talking on their cellphone I think of the lost opportunity to enrich their child. Perhaps the worst case outcome I have ever heard was from the mom who told me that she has never said “I love you” to her now teenaged daughter. I asked her to see if she could say that to her daughter during the coming week, and if she was not able, to write down what she was thinking about and feeling when she tried and couldn’t. 

This mom did try. She reported that she was able to tell her daughter that she loved her. Via text. Our brains are sensitive to both the message and the medium. Her words may have been sincere but her message was muted. It is never too late to make some connection, but the connection may never become as strong as it would have been had it been made when her daughter was very young. 

Numerous studies have shown that young brains tend to be more sensitive and responsive to experiences than older brains. The value of talking to your baby, reading to your toddler and asking him questions, engaging your preschooler in reciprocal play and two way conversation, is immense. Numerous studies have shown that spending time together while reading aloud helps to create strong parent-child bonds and promotes healthy brain development. 

Children that are read to more often have improved language and listening skills, and experience stronger emotional connections to their loved ones. Research reveals it is a highly interactive experience—it’s a partnership. Children choose books, kids and parents ask questions of each other, turn pages and punctuate the experience with sound effects. This interactivity fuels the child-parent bond that children express when asked to describe why they love(d) read-aloud time: “My mom and dad sit and we read together. We spend time together reading the books and laughing and talking,” an 8-year-old girl explained. More than 80% of both kids and parents across all income levels and child’s age love or like read-aloud time a lot. 

In 2014 the American Academy of Pediatrics released new guidelines encouraging parents to read to their children beginning at birth, saying it enhances parent-child bonding and prepares babies’ brains for language and literacy skills. Why is read-aloud time loved so much? Parents and children say it is because it is a special time with each other. And this feeling stays with children as they grow older, as a 17-year-old boy shared: “It was quality one-on-one time with my parents and I have special memories of picking out the books that they would read with me.” (https://www.scholastic.com/readingreport/rise-of-read-aloud.html) 

It is important to educate parents about early childhood development, and on just how much critical brain development goes on in the first few years of life. to educate the public about the needs of young children. The age segregation in our society, the lack of integration of these key concepts into public education and the limited experience many people have with young children before they have their own still puts far too many parents and their children at risk. (Excerpted from Perry, B. D., & Szalavitz, M. (2007). The boy who was raised as a dog. Basic Books) Are child-appropriate audio presentations suitable substitutes for parents? According to the Mishna Brurah, b’chol hamitzvos, mitzvah bo yosair mi’bshlucho, it is best when the mitzvah is done by the one given the mitzvah rather than by an appointed agent. (Siman 250, Mishna Brurah 3) The mitzvah of chinuch habanim, including very young banim, is too precious to be assigned to an audio player. Put down the phone and pick up your child. It will be uplifting for both of you

Ain Meilitz Yosher?

 We say in davening on the Yomim Noraim "באין מליץ יושר מול מגיד פשע" - There is nobody speaking positively on our behalf against the Accuser. 

This is true. But every rule has an exception... [even that rule]. 

HaGaon Rav Nosson Geshtetner ZTZ"L was one of the Gedolei Ha-dor. He knew EVERYTHING. He started being mechadesh chiddushei Torah when he was SIX YEARS OLD [!!!!] and didn't stop. He published in his lifetime abt. 69 sfarim [!!!!!!] - some of them thick tomes. He also left many more in manuscript which are assiduously being published by a team of scholars. [I was zocheh to meet him and instantly fell in love. I wanted to develop a kesher but sadly he passed away soon after]. He was also a Rosh Yeshiva, a Dayan on the Beis Din and the Rav of a community. His chiddushim are SWEETER than honey. Eat your challah with them.... 

He wrote a promise [I saw it in his handwriting] that he will be a מליץ יושר and daven to Hashem for anyone who contributes money to publish his chiddushim.

WHATTA DEAL!!!!!!!! A HUUUUUGE Meilitz Yosher! 

[Avi Mori] R' Yitzchak Yonah ben Chana bisoch shear cholei yisrael

 (א) לַמְנַצֵּ֗חַ מִזְמ֥וֹר לְדָוִֽד׃ (ב) יַֽעַנְךָ֣ יְ֭הוָה בְּי֣וֹם צָרָ֑ה יְ֝שַׂגֶּבְךָ֗ שֵׁ֤ם ׀ אֱלֹהֵ֬י יַעֲקֹֽב׃ (ג) יִשְׁלַֽח־עֶזְרְךָ֥ מִקֹּ֑דֶשׁ וּ֝מִצִּיּ֗וֹן יִסְעָדֶֽךָּ׃ (ד) יִזְכֹּ֥ר כָּל־מִנְחֹתֶ֑ךָ וְעוֹלָתְךָ֖ יְדַשְּׁנֶ֣ה סֶֽלָה׃ (ה) יִֽתֶּן־לְךָ֥ כִלְבָבֶ֑ךָ וְֽכָל־עֲצָתְךָ֥ יְמַלֵּֽא׃ (ו) נְרַנְּנָ֤ה ׀ בִּ֘ישׁ֤וּעָתֶ֗ךָ וּבְשֵֽׁם־אֱלֹהֵ֥ינוּ נִדְגֹּ֑ל יְמַלֵּ֥א יְ֝הוָ֗ה כָּל־מִשְׁאֲלוֹתֶֽיךָ׃ (ז) עַתָּ֤ה יָדַ֗עְתִּי כִּ֤י הוֹשִׁ֥יעַ ׀ יְהוָ֗ה מְשִׁ֫יח֥וֹ יַ֭עֲנֵהוּ מִשְּׁמֵ֣י קָדְשׁ֑וֹ בִּ֝גְבֻר֗וֹת יֵ֣שַׁע יְמִינֽוֹ׃ (ח) אֵ֣לֶּה בָ֭רֶכֶב וְאֵ֣לֶּה בַסּוּסִ֑ים וַאֲנַ֓חְנוּ ׀ בְּשֵׁם־יְהוָ֖ה אֱלֹהֵ֣ינוּ נַזְכִּֽיר׃ (ט) הֵ֭מָּה כָּרְע֣וּ וְנָפָ֑לוּ וַאֲנַ֥חְנוּ קַּ֝֗מְנוּ וַנִּתְעוֹדָֽד׃ (י) יְהוָ֥ה הוֹשִׁ֑יעָה הַ֝מֶּ֗לֶךְ יַעֲנֵ֥נוּ בְיוֹם־קָרְאֵֽנוּ׃


(א) מִזְמ֡וֹר שִׁיר־חֲנֻכַּ֖ת הַבַּ֣יִת לְדָוִֽד׃ (ב) אֲרוֹמִמְךָ֣ יְ֭הוָה כִּ֣י דִלִּיתָ֑נִי וְלֹא־שִׂמַּ֖חְתָּ אֹיְבַ֣י לִֽי׃ (ג) יְהוָ֥ה אֱלֹהָ֑י שִׁוַּ֥עְתִּי אֵ֝לֶ֗יךָ וַתִּרְפָּאֵֽנִי׃ (ד) יְֽהוָ֗ה הֶֽעֱלִ֣יתָ מִן־שְׁא֣וֹל נַפְשִׁ֑י חִ֝יִּיתַ֗נִי מיורדי־[מִיָּֽרְדִי־] בֽוֹר׃ (ה) זַמְּר֣וּ לַיהוָ֣ה חֲסִידָ֑יו וְ֝הוֹד֗וּ לְזֵ֣כֶר קָדְשֽׁוֹ׃ (ו) כִּ֤י רֶ֨גַע ׀ בְּאַפּוֹ֮ חַיִּ֪ים בִּרְצ֫וֹנ֥וֹ בָּ֭עֶרֶב יָלִ֥ין בֶּ֗כִי וְלַבֹּ֥קֶר רִנָּֽה׃ (ז) וַ֭אֲנִי אָמַ֣רְתִּי בְשַׁלְוִ֑י בַּל־אֶמּ֥וֹט לְעוֹלָֽם׃ (ח) יְֽהוָ֗ה בִּרְצוֹנְךָ֮ הֶעֱמַ֪דְתָּה לְֽהַרְרִ֫י עֹ֥ז הִסְתַּ֥רְתָּ פָנֶ֗יךָ הָיִ֥יתִי נִבְהָֽל׃ (ט) אֵלֶ֣יךָ יְהוָ֣ה אֶקְרָ֑א וְאֶל־אֲ֝דֹנָ֗י אֶתְחַנָּֽן׃ (י) מַה־בֶּ֥צַע בְּדָמִי֮ בְּרִדְתִּ֪י אֶ֫ל־שָׁ֥חַת הֲיוֹדְךָ֥ עָפָ֑ר הֲיַגִּ֥יד אֲמִתֶּֽךָ׃ (יא) שְׁמַע־יְהוָ֥ה וְחָנֵּ֑נִי יְ֝הוָה הֱ‍ֽיֵה־עֹזֵ֥ר לִֽי׃ (יב) הָפַ֣כְתָּ מִסְפְּדִי֮ לְמָח֪וֹל לִ֥י פִּתַּ֥חְתָּ שַׂקִּ֑י וַֽתְּאַזְּרֵ֥נִי שִׂמְחָֽה׃ (יג) לְמַ֤עַן ׀ יְזַמֶּרְךָ֣ כָ֭בוֹד וְלֹ֣א יִדֹּ֑ם יְהוָ֥ה אֱ֝לֹהַ֗י לְעוֹלָ֥ם אוֹדֶֽךָּ׃


(א) שִׁ֗יר לַֽמַּ֫עֲל֥וֹת אֶשָּׂ֣א עֵ֭ינַי אֶל־הֶהָרִ֑ים מֵ֝אַ֗יִן יָבֹ֥א עֶזְרִֽי׃ (ב) עֶ֭זְרִי מֵעִ֣ם יְהוָ֑ה עֹ֝שֵׂ֗ה שָׁמַ֥יִם וָאָֽרֶץ׃ (ג) אַל־יִתֵּ֣ן לַמּ֣וֹט רַגְלֶ֑ךָ אַל־יָ֝נ֗וּם שֹֽׁמְרֶֽךָ׃ (ד) הִנֵּ֣ה לֹֽא־יָ֭נוּם וְלֹ֣א יִישָׁ֑ן שׁ֝וֹמֵ֗ר יִשְׂרָאֵֽל׃ (ה) יְהוָ֥ה שֹׁמְרֶ֑ךָ יְהוָ֥ה צִ֝לְּךָ֗ עַל־יַ֥ד יְמִינֶֽךָ׃ (ו) יוֹמָ֗ם הַשֶּׁ֥מֶשׁ לֹֽא־יַכֶּ֗כָּה וְיָרֵ֥חַ בַּלָּֽיְלָה׃ (ז) יְֽהוָ֗ה יִשְׁמָרְךָ֥ מִכָּל־רָ֑ע יִ֝שְׁמֹ֗ר אֶת־נַפְשֶֽׁךָ׃ (ח) יְֽהוָ֗ה יִשְׁמָר־צֵאתְךָ֥ וּבוֹאֶ֑ךָ מֵֽ֝עַתָּ֗ה וְעַד־עוֹלָֽם׃


(א) שִׁ֥יר הַֽמַּעֲל֑וֹת מִמַּעֲמַקִּ֖ים קְרָאתִ֣יךָ יְהוָֽה׃ (ב) אֲדֹנָי֮ שִׁמְעָ֪ה בְק֫וֹלִ֥י תִּהְיֶ֣ינָה אָ֭זְנֶיךָ קַשֻּׁב֑וֹת לְ֝ק֗וֹל תַּחֲנוּנָֽי׃ (ג) אִם־עֲוֺנ֥וֹת תִּשְׁמָר־יָ֑הּ אֲ֝דֹנָ֗י מִ֣י יַעֲמֹֽד׃ (ד) כִּֽי־עִמְּךָ֥ הַסְּלִיחָ֑ה לְ֝מַ֗עַן תִּוָּרֵֽא׃ (ה) קִוִּ֣יתִי יְ֭הוָה קִוְּתָ֣ה נַפְשִׁ֑י וְֽלִדְבָר֥וֹ הוֹחָֽלְתִּי׃ (ו) נַפְשִׁ֥י לַֽאדֹנָ֑י מִשֹּׁמְרִ֥ים לַ֝בֹּ֗קֶר שֹׁמְרִ֥ים לַבֹּֽקֶר׃ (ז) יַחֵ֥ל יִשְׂרָאֵ֗ל אֶל־יְה֫וָה כִּֽי־עִם־יְהוָ֥ה הַחֶ֑סֶד וְהַרְבֵּ֖ה עִמּ֣וֹ פְדֽוּת׃ (ח) וְ֭הוּא יִפְדֶּ֣ה אֶת־יִשְׂרָאֵ֑ל מִ֝כֹּ֗ל עֲוֺנֹתָֽיו׃

Curious

The claim of the anti-vaxxers is that they don't want to be injected w/ unknown and possibly toxic chemicals. 

I am TOTALLY down w/ that. I ALSO don't want to be injected with poison!!! 😊

HOWEVER - They also shouldn't eat white sugar, white flour, fruits and vegetables [which are sprayed with insecticides], fried foods, red meat, soft drinks [esp. Coke] etc. etc. They also shouldn't use a microwave oven or a phone [terrible cancerous radiation]. ALL POISONS - ALBEIT INNOCENT LOOKING.  

NOW they are healthy!!!  

I am just CURIOUS if they are careful abt. other poisons besides the vaccine.... 

Lawnmower Parents

Rabbi Yitzchak Ackerman 

 Akavia ben Mehalalel’s son said to him, “Father, commend me to your colleagues.” Akavia said to him, “I will not commend you.” He said to Akavia, “Have you found something wrong with me?” Akavia said, “No. Your deeds will cause you to be accepted, and your deeds will cause you to be distanced.” (Eduyos 5:7) He was telling his son that he should engage in maasim tovim in order to be acceptable in the eyes of Hashem and his fellows. And, that if he fails to do this, his deeds should cause him to be distanced so that he will realize his errors and correct them. (Tiferes Yisrael ibid) 

Why didn’t Akavia say to him at the outset, “No. Your deeds will cause you to be accepted, and your deeds will cause you to be distanced.” Why did he first say, “I will not commend you” without explaining what he later told him? Akavia wanted to see whether his son would interpret this refusal as the result of some lacking that his father perceived in him or would his son assume that his father demurred because these colleagues would not accept recommendations from Akavia due to their dispute with him. When Akavia heard his son’s concern about his own worthiness, he revealed his motive in refusing to commend him to the colleagues. (Ben Yehoyada, Eduyos 5:7) 

The Ben Ish Chai goes on to apply this concept to “letters of introduction,” saying that we should learn from Akavia ben Mehalalel to present ourselves, not letters. I heard that a certain Gaon wrote a letter of introduction for someone. All he wrote was two words: Mi v’Mi. This was an allusion to the term Mi v’Mi haholchim, who are these travelers? The words Mi v’Mi are an acrostic alluding to what Akavia said to his son, Maasecha Ykarvucha uMaasecha Yraakucha, your deeds will cause you to be accepted, and your deeds will cause you to be distanced. (ibid) [In Hebrew, the letter yud, “y” is also used for the “i” the word “Mi.”] Akavia ben Mehalalel refused to plow a path for his son. He taught his son to show his best and to work at doing better when necessary. He acknowledged that his son would face obstacles rather than mowing them down before his son ever came up against any. He knew that the day would come that his son would face an obstacle and would need to know how to handle it. 

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone I can see all obstacles in my way Here is that rainbow I've been praying for It's gonna be a bright (bright) Bright (bright) sunshiny day (I Can See Clearly Now, Johnny Nash, Epic Records, 1972) Bright, successful lives are not built by parents who mow down obstacles. A child’s success comes from parents who allow him to see obstacles and gain the confidence to overcome them. The term obstacle course is a felicitous double entendre. It is a course you travel through and a course of study from which you learn. Akavia ben Mehalalel understood that. He was the first to reject lawnmower parenting. Lawnmower parenting happens when parents cut down any obstacle that could stand in their child's way. They do this to prevent their child from having to face adversity, struggle or failure. Or they do it because they, the parents, cannot cope with seeing their children struggle. At its worst, when parents go to extremes to give their children privileges they haven’t earned. These are the parents who gained national attention when they broke laws to help their children get into colleges they were not qualified to attend. This need to mow down obstacles can distort a parent’s behaviors in less severe, yet harmful ways. If a parent becomes intensely focused on their child’s success and comfort, they are not only losing control of themselves. They are teaching their child that success and comfort are mandatory at all times and a disaster if even momentarily lost. Children acquire this anxiety and it may become a lifelong struggle. It is a parent’s responsibility to tolerate a child’s failure. Otherwise, their child will be afraid to try lest they fail and cause pain to their parents. That is a source of anxiety in children that parents can prevent. Failure, sooner or later, is not preventable. 

When your child fails, use the failure as a lesson in what to do differently next time and how to go about it, not what should have happened last time. The way to build confidence and prevent or reduce anxiety is by allowing your child to get knocked down and get back up again. Because you allowed her to experience that, she learned how to walk. Yes, she got frustrated and maybe sometimes got hurt. And she gained confidence in her ability to succeed after numerous failures. There’s more than confidence and anxiety reduction to think about. Lawnmower parents deny their children the gift of accomplishment.

 A mother recalled, One of my proudest moments as a parent was when my 9-yearold daughter forgot her New York City MetroCard. She had the smarts to ask a police officer at the local pizza place to escort her to the bus stop and tell the bus driver she didn't have her MetroCard. She got home and was so pleased with her problem-solving skills. Does this mean that chesed is not a part of parenting, that parents should not intervene on behalf of their children, not try to smooth their paths? Of course not. Like everything, it is a matter of balance. Sometimes you choose to remove an obstacle, sometimes you help a child to anticipate and prepare for an obstacle, and sometimes you stand back and see how well he does when he comes upon an obstacle he didn’t know about. And you daven that his deeds will bring him close to Hashem and his fellows.

Students don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care

 There is a beautiful expression, “Students don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” Everyone wants to be loved, cared for, and validated. In fact, when a rebbi or morah makes a student feel that way, the bonds of connection are powerful. This was the connection talmidim had with their beloved, revered Rosh Yeshivah, Rav Nosson Tzvi Finkel (1943-2011). 

In the ArtScroll biography, Rav Nosson Tzvi, written by his mother Rebbetzin Sara Finkel and Rabbi Yehuda Heimowitz, three incidents typify this relationship. The wife of a chavrusa of Rav Nosson Tzvi was having a difficult labor. At 10 p.m., the talmid called the Rosh Yeshivah’s house. Rebbetzin Finkel answered. The chavrusa asked that the Rosh Yeshivah daven for his wife that the birth should happen soon and safely. The Rebbetzin conveyed the message to the Rosh Yeshivah. The baby was born at 1 o’clock in the morning. The next morning, Reb Nosson Tzvi and his wife were eating breakfast when the young man came to tell him the news. Before he had a chance to say anything, Reb Nosson Tzvi said, “Oh, mazel tov on the baby girl.” The man was shocked. “How did the Rosh Yeshivah know that?” He hadn’t called him when the baby was born. The Rebbetzin answered, “At 3 o’clock in the morning we were still up and saying Tehillim, so the Rosh Yeshivah called the maternity ward and he heard that the baby had been born and that mother and baby were doing well.” That’s caring, that’s concern, that’s validation. 

Another story in the book really touched me. On the first night of Rosh Hashanah, hundreds of talmidim were filing by to wish Reb Nosson Tzvi a good year. Even though it took a very long time, he would look at every person and give a warm berachah. When the turn of one talmid came, Reb Nosson Tzvi took him aside and asked his name and how he was doing. Later, the Rosh Yeshivah’s brother Reb Gedaliah asked, “Why did you single out this bachur from all the other bachurim?” “I noticed that his tie wasn’t straight,” the Rosh Yeshivah replied. “He looked a little bit disheveled. It seemed to me that he was going through a difficult time.” Sure enough, he was. The chizuk that Reb Nosson Tzvi gave him lifted his spirits. 


In a third incident, in the early 1990’s, the Rosh Yeshivah married off one of his children in Bnei Brak, and many talmidim traveled there to dance with him. There were many important people at the wedding, but Reb Nosson Tzvi concentrated on dancing with his talmidim. At his next Shmuess, he said, “I want you to know that after the chasunah, my mechutan told me that he has been in chinuch for many years, and he never saw such a relationship, such an outpouring of love that we have for each other. The mechutan said it was an ‘ocean of love.’” The Rosh Yeshivah paused for a moment and then said with a big smile, “I just wanted to say thank you.” The warmth, the love, and the chessed of that man are still felt today by the talmidim who studied with him years ago.

R' Krohn 

Something To Be Suspicious Of ....

Ads offering to lend you large sums of money....

You are not going to get rich from that. They are.   

Rambam On The Categories Of Speech

כבר אמר החכם ברוב דברים לא יחדל פשע וסבת זה שרוב הדברים תוספת מותר וחטא כמו שאבאר עתה כי כשירבה האדם דברים יפשע על כל פנים שא"א שלא יהיה בדבריו דיבור אחד שאין ראוי לאמרו וממופתי החכמים מעוט הדברים וממופתי הסכלים רוב הדברים שנאמר וקול כסיל ברוב דברים וכבר אמרו החכמים שמיעוט הדברים ראיה על מעלת האבות והיות אדם מיוחס אמרו מיחסותא דבבל שתיקותא ואמר בספר המדות שאחד מהחכמים נראה שותק הרבה על שלא היה מדבר דבור שאין ראוי לאמרו ולא היה מדבר אלא מעט מזער ונאמר לו מה סבת רב שתיקותך ואמר בחנתי כל הדברים ומצאתים נחלקים לד' חלקים:


The wise one has already stated (Proverbs 10:19), With many words, there is no lack of transgression." And the reason for this is that most words add superfluity and sin, as I will elucidate now. As when a man increases his words, he will certainly transgress, since it is impossible that there will not be in his words one word that is not fit to say. And one of the signs of the wise is minimization of words, and one of the signs of the foolish is the multitude of words. And the sages have already said that the minimization of words is proof of the high virtue of the forefathers. And when a man was pedigreed they would say, "The pedigreed one of Babylonia is the quiet one." And it is said in the Book of Characteristics that one of the sages was seen to be silent, since he did not say speech that was not fitting to speak and he only spoke very little. And they said to him, "What is the reason for your great silence?" And he said, "I have examined all speech and I have found it divided into four divisions.


החלק הראשון הוא כולו נזק מבלתי תועלת כקללת בני אדם ודבר נבלה וכיוצא בהם שהדברים בהם שטות גמורה:


The first division is completely injurious, without benefit, like the cursing of people or vulgarity and similar to them; such that to speak with them is complete idiocy. [That is very common today...]


והחלק הב' יש בו נזק מצד אחד ותועלת מצד אחר כשבח אדם אחד לקבל בו תועלת ויהיה בשבח ההוא מה שיכעיס שונאו ויזיק למי ששבחו וצריך להניח הדברים בזה בגלל הסיבה הזאת שלא ידברו בזה החלק ג"כ:


And the second division is injurious on one side but beneficial on the other side, like the praise of a man to gain benefit from him. But in that praise will be that which will anger his enemy and so [the speech] will injure the one being praised. And one should refrain from this speech because of this reason, [such] that they not speak things from this division as well.

והחלק הג' דברים שאין תועלת בהם ולא נזק כרוב דברי ההמון איך נבנית חומה פלונית ואיך נבנה היכל פלוני ובספור יופי בית פלוני ורוב מגדנות המדינה הפלונית וכיוצא באלו הם הדברים המותר אמר הדברים בזה גם כן מותר אין תועלת בהם:

And the third division is words that have no benefit and no injury like most of the speech of the masses: how was wall x built?; how was hall y built; or the telling of the beauty of house x or the multitude of delicacies of country y; and similar to these. These are extraneous words - one who says such words is excessive and there is no benefit in them. [Many Shabbos table discussions...]

והחלק הד' דברים שכולם תועלת כדברים בחכמות ובמעלות ודבר האדם במה שהוא מיוחד בו מן הדברים שחייו תלוים בהם ובהם ימשך מציאותו ובזה צריך לדבר אמר בכל עת שאשמע דברים אני בוחן אותם ואם אמצאם מזה החלק הרביעי אדבר בם ואם יהיו משאר החלקים אשתוק מהם ואמרו בעל המדות בחן זה האיש וחכמתו שהוא חסר שלשה רבעי הדברים וזאת החכמה שצריך ללמדה ואני אומר שהדבור יחלק לפי חיוב התורה לחמשה חלקים. א' מצוה בו. ב' נזהר ממנו. ג' נמאס. ד' אהוב. ה' מותר:


And the fourth division are words that are completely beneficial, like the speech about the wisdoms and about the virtues and the speech of a person about what is specific to him, in that his life depends upon them and through them will his existence continue. And he must speak this." He said, "Any time I hear words, I examine them. And if I find that they are from this fourth division, I speak them. But if they are from the other divisions, I am silent about them." And the [author] of the [Book of] Characteristics examined this man and his wisdom which is to avoid three-fourths of speech, and [found] that this wisdom is the one that needs to be taught. And I say that speech is divided into five parts according to the Torah's obligation: 1) We are commanded about it; 2) We are warned against it; 3) The disgusting; 4) The beloved; 5) The permissible.

החלק הראשון הוא המצוה בו והוא קריאת התורה ולמודה וקריאת תלמודה וזו היא מצות עשה מחוייבת שנא' ודברת בם והיא שקולה כנגד כל המצות וכבר נאמר מן האזהרה בלמוד מה שלא יכיל זה החבור קצתו:


The first division is that which one is commanded about - and it is reading the Torah and studying it and reading its analysis. And this is an obligatory positive commandment, as it is stated (Deuteronomy 6:7), "and you shall speak in them." And it is as weighty as all of the other commandments [put together]. And it has already been said about the imperative of study that which not even a part of would fit in this [entire] composition.


החלק הב' הוא הדבור הנאסר ונזהר ממנו כעדות שקר ודבר שקר והרכילות והקללה ודברי התורה מורים על זה החלק וכן נבלות הפה ולשון הרע:

The second division is the speech that is forbidden and that we are warned against, such as false testimony, talebearing and cursing. And the words of the Torah teach about this division. And also [included] are foul speech and evil speech.

החלק הג' הוא הדבור הנמאס אשר אין בו תועלת לאדם בנפשו ולא עבירה ולא מרי כרוב ספור ההמון במה שאירע ומה שהיה ומה הם מנהגי מלך פלוני בהיכלו ואיך היתה סבת מות פלוני או איך התעשר פלוני ואלו קוראים אותם החכמים שיחה בטלה והחסידים השתדלו בעצמם להניח זה החלק מן הדבור ונאמר על רב תלמידו של ר' חייא שלא שח שיחה בטלה מימיו ומזה החלק ג"כ שיגנה אדם מעלה או ישבח פחיתות יהיו מדות או שכליות:

And the third division is the disgusting that has no benefit to a man for himself, but is not a sin and not rebellious - like the speech of the masses about what happened and what was and what are the customs of King x in his chamber and how was the cause of y's death or how did z become rich. And the sages call these idle talk; and the pious ones made efforts for themselves to refrain from this division of speech. And it was said about Rav, the student of Rabbi Hiya, that he did not speak idle talk all of his days. And from this division is also when a person disgraces a virtue or praises a vice - whether they be intellectual or dispositional.


החלק הד' הוא הנאהב והוא הדבור בשבח המעלות השכליות או מעלות המדות ובגנות הפחיתיות משני המינים יחד להעיר הנפש למעלות בספורים ובשירים ולמנעה מן הפחיתיות בדרכים ההם בעצמם וכן לשבח החשובים ולהודות מעלותיהם כדי שיטבו מנהגיהם בעיני בני אדם וילכו בדרכיהם ולגנות הרעים בפחיתיותיהם כדי שיתגנו פעולתם וזכרם בעיני בני אדם ויתרחקו מהם ולא יתנהגו הם כמנהגיהם וזה החלק רצה לומר למוד המדות המעולות והתרחק מן המדות הפחותות יקרא דרך ארץ:


And the fourth division is the beloved, and that is speech in praise of intellectual virtues or dispositional virtues and in disgrace of both types of vice - to awaken the soul to the virtues with stories and songs, and to prevent the vices in these same ways. And also to praise the distinguished and to acknowledge their virtues, so that their practices be valued in the eyes of people and that they walk in their ways; and to disgrace the bad about their vices, so that their action and their memory be disgraced in the eyes of people and that they distance themselves from them and not act according to their practices. And this division - meaning to say, study of the virtuous traits and distancing from traits of vice - is called derech eretz (the way of the world).

החלק הה' הוא המותר והוא הדבור במה שמיוחד לבני אדם מסחורתו ופרנסתו ומאכליו ומשתיו ולבושו ושאר מה שצריך לו והוא מותר אין אהבה בו ולא מאוס אבל אם ירצה ידבר בו מה שירצה ואם ירצה לא ידבר ובזה החלק ישובח האדם כשימעט הדברים בו והזהירו אנשי המוסר מהרבות בו דברים אבל האסור והנמאס אין צריך לאזהרה ולא למצוה שראוי לשתוק ממנה לגמרי אבל המצוה בו והאהוב אילו היה האדם יכול לדבר בו כל ימיו היה טוב אבל צריך להזהר משני דברים. האחד מהם שיהיו מעשיו מסכימים לדבריו כמו שאמרו נאים הדברים היוצאים מפי עושיהם ועל זה הענין כוון באמרו ולא המדרש הוא עקר אלא המעשה באמרו וחכמים יאמרו לצדיק שילמד המעלות כאומרם דרוש ולך נאה לדרוש ואמר הנביא רננו צדיקים בה' לישרים נאוה תהלה. והענין האחר הוא הקצור ושישתדל להרבות הענינים במעט דברים לא שיהיה הענין בהיפך והוא אמרם לעולם ישנה אדם לתלמידיו דרך קצרה ודע שהשירים המחוברים באיזה לשון שיהיו צריך שיבחנו בעניניהם אם הם הולכים על דרך הדבור אשר חלקנוהו ואמנם בארתי זה אע"פ שהוא מבואר מפני שראיתי זקנים והחסידים מאנשי תורתנו כשיהיו במשתה יין כחופה או זולתה וירצה אדם לשיר שיר ערבי אפי' ענין השיר ההוא שבח הגבורה או הנדיבות והוא מן החלק האהוב או בשבחי היין ירחיקו זה בכל צד מן ההרחקה ואין מותר אצלם לשמעו וכשישורר המשורר פיוט מן הפיוטים העבריים לא ירחיקוהו ולא ירע בעיניהם עם היות בדברים ההם המוזהר ממנו או הנמאס וזה סכלות גמורה שהדבור לא יאסר ויותר ויאהב וימאס ויצוה באמירתו מצד הלשון שנעשה [בו] אבל מצד ענינו שאם יהיה ענין [השיר] ההוא מעלה יתחייב לאמרו באיזה לשון שיהיה ואם יהיה כוונת השיר ההוא פחיתות באיזה לשון שיהיה אסור לאמרו [באיזה לשון שיהיה] גם יש לי בזה תוספת כי כשיהיו שני פיוטים ולשניהם ענין אחד מהעיר כח התאוה ושבח אותה וישמח הנפש בה והוא פחיתות והוא מחלק הדבור הנמאס מפני שהוא מזרז ומעורר על מדה פחותה כמו שהתבאר מדברינו בפ' הרביעי ויהיה א' משני הפיוטים עברי והא' ערבי או לעז יהיה שמיעת העברי והדבור בו יותר נמאס אצל התורה למעלת הלשון שאין צריך שישתמשו בו אלא במעלות כל שכן אם יצטרף אליו שישימו בו פסוק מן התורה או משיר השירים בענין ההוא שאז יצא מחלק הנמאס לחלק הנאסר ומוזהר ממנו שהתורה אסרה לעשות דברי הנבואה מיני זמר בפחיתיות ובדברים מגונים. ואחר שזכרנו לשון הרע בחלק הדבור האסור ראיתי לבארו ולזכור בו קצת מה שנזכר שבני אדם בו בעורון גדול והוא החטא הגדול שבבני אדם תמיד וכ"ש במה שאמרו חכמים שאבק לשון הרע לא ינצל אדם ממנו בכל יום ומי יתן שינצל מלשון הרע עצמו ולשון הרע הוא ספור רעות האדם ומומיו ולגנות אדם מישראל באיזה צד שיהיה מן הגנות ואפילו היה המגונה חסר כמו שנזכר שאין לשון הרע שיכזב על אדם וייחס לו מה שלא יעשה כי זה יקרא מוציא שם רע על חבירו ואמנם לשון הרע הוא שיגנה גנות האדם אפילו בפעולותיו אשר יעשה באמת שהאומרו יחטא ואשר ישמעהו יחטא. אמרו ג' לשון הרע הורגתן. האומרו. השומעו. ושאומרים עליו. ואמרו המקבלו יותר מן האומרו. ואבק לשון הרע הוא זכרון מומי האדם בלתי באור אמר שלמה בזה הענין כי פעמים יהיה הזוכר מומי האדם בלתי באור מראה שאין ידיעה לו במה שהובן מדבריו ושהוא לא כוון זה ואמנם כוון ענין אחר כמו שאמר כמתלהלה היורה זקים חצים ומות כן איש רמה את רעהו ואמר הלא משחק אני. וכבר שבח חכם מן המתחכמים כתיבת הסופר שהראה לו במעמד גדול וגנה הרב מעשה המשבח כתיבת הסופר ההוא ואמר לו כלך מלשון הרע כלומר שאתה מסבב גנותו בשבחך אותו בתוך ההמון שמהם מי שיאהבהו ומהם מי שישנאהו ויצטרך שונאו כשישמע שבחיו לזכור מומיו ורעותיו וזה תכלית ההרחקה מלשון הרע ולשון המשנה לא נחתם גזר דין על אבותינו אלא על לשון הרע רצה לומר ענין המרגלים אשר נאמר בהם ויוציאו דבת הארץ ואמרו ע"ה ומה אלו שלא הוציאו שם רע אלא על העצים ועל האבנים התחייבו מן העונש מה שנתחייבו מי שידבר בגנות חבירו על אחת כמה וכמה: ולשון התוספתא על ג' דברים נפרעין מן האדם בעולם הזה ואין לו חלק לעולם הבא עבודת כוכבים גלוי עריות ושפיכות דמים ולשון הרע כנגד כולם ואמרו בגמרא בעבודת כוכבים בא לשון הגדולה והוא אמרו אנא חטא העם הזה חטאה גדולה ובחטא גלוי עריות בא גם כן לשון הגדולה והוא אמרו ואיך אעשה הרעה הגדולה הזאת ובחטא שפיכות דמים בא ג"כ לשון הגדולה והוא אמרו גדול עוני מנשוא אבל בלשון הרע בא לשון גדולות ר"ל שהיא שקולה כנגד שלשתם והוא אמרו לשון מדברת גדולות ודברו בחטא הזה המעורר הרבה מאד וסוף מה שנאמר כל המספר לשון הרע כפר בעיקר שנאמר אשר אמרו ללשוננו נגביר שפתינו אתנו מי אדון לנו אמנם ספרתי קצת מה שספרו בזה החטא אע"פ שהארכתי כדי שיתרחק ממנו האדם בכל יכלתו וישים כונתו לשתוק רצה לומר מזה החלק מן הדבור:


The fifth division is the permissible and is the speech about what is specific to a person about his business, his livelihood, his food, his drink, his clothing and the rest of what he needs for himself. And it is permissible - it is not beloved or disgusting. Rather, if he wants, he can speak what he wants of it, and if he wants, he will not speak [it]. And with this division, a person is praiseworthy when he minimizes his speaking of it. And the men of ethics have warned about increasing words in it. But the forbidden and the disgusting does not require a warning nor a commandment, as it is fitting to be completely silent from it. However the commanded and the beloved [speech], if a person could speak in it all of his days, it would be good. However one must be careful about two things: The one is that his deeds match his words, as they said, "Pleasant are the words that come out of the mouth of one who does them." And about this matter did he intend in his saying, "And the exposition [of Torah] is not what is essential, but the action." And the sages say to a righteous one that [specifically] he teach the virtues, in their saying, "Expound, and for you it is fit to expound." And the prophet stated (Psalms 33a), "Rejoice, righteous ones in the Lord; for the straight is praise beautiful." And the other matter is terseness and that he make efforts to maximize content with few words and not that the matter be the opposite. And this is what they said (Pesachim 3a), "A man should teach his students in the brief way." And know that songs, that are composed in any language that it be, must be examined for their contents - if they are following the way of speech that we have divided. And indeed, I have clarified this even though it is clear [already], because I have seen elders and and pious men from the people of our Torah when they are at a wine party like a wedding or something else and a person wants to sing an Arabic song - even if the subject of that song is praise of courage or generosity and that is from the division of the beloved, [as well as] when it is in praise of wine - they push it off with every angle of distancing, and it is not permissible according to them to hear it. And when the lyricist sings one of the Hebrew canticles it is not bad in their eyes if it is from the things that we are warned against or which are disgusting. And this is complete foolishness, as speech is not forbidden or extraneous or beloved or disgusting or commanded in its saying because of the language that it is in, but rather because of its content. As if the content of that song is virtue, he is obligated to say it - in any language that it my be. But if the intention of that song is vice in any language that it should be, it is forbidden to say it [- in any language that it should be]. I also have what to add to this: When there are two canticles and they express the same content of arousing the power of desire and praise for it and to rejoice the soul with it - and it is vice and it is from the division of disgusting speech since it enthuses and arouses a trait of vice, as is clarified in our words in the fourth chapter - but one of the two canticles is in Hebrew and one is in Arabic or vernacular; listening to the Hebrew and speaking it is more disgusting to the Torah due to the level of the language, as it is only right to use it for virtues. All the more so if they require to put into it a verse from the Torah or from the Song of Songs about that matter - as then, it goes from the division of the disgusting to the division of the forbidden and what is warned against. As the Torah forbade to make the words of prophecy types of song for vice and disgusting things. And since we have mentioned evil speech in the division of forbidden speech, I saw [fit] to elucidate it and to mention a little of what is mentioned about it. As people are in great blindness about it and it is the great sin that is always in people - and all the more so about what the sages said (Bava Batra 164b) that a person does not escape from tangential evil speech on any day. And who would give that we escape from evil speech itself! And evil speech is the recounting of the evils of a man and his blemishes and the disgracing of a man of Israel in whatever side of disgrace that it be - and even if the disgraced was lacking as was spoken. As evil speech is not that he lie about a man and attribute to him that which he does not do, as that is called putting out a bad name on his fellow. However evil speech is that when he disgraces the disgraces of a person, even about his actions that he truly does, [such] that the speaker sins and the one who hears him sins. They said (Arakhin 15b), "There are three that evil speech kills: the one who speaks it, the one who listens to it and the one they are speaking about." And they said, "The one who listens to it more than the one who speaks it." And tangential evil speech is the mention of the blemishes of a man without clarification. Shlomo said about this matter that sometimes one who mentions the blemishes of a person without clarification shows that he does not have knowledge of that which is understood from his words and that he did not intend this, but rather intended another matter - as he said (Proverbs 26:18-19), "Like a madman scattering deadly firebrands, arrows, is one who cheats his fellow and says, 'I was only joking.'" And one of the sages from among the wise ones already praised in a large group the writing of a scribe that he showed him; and the rabbi condemned the act of the praiser and said (Mishnah Arakhin 3:5), "Go and stop your evil speech." [He meant] to say that you are causing his disgrace with your praise of him in the large group. As from them is one who loves him and one who hates him, and his enemy will be forced to mention his blemishes and his evils when he hears his praises. And that is an extreme distancing from evil speech. And the language of the Mishnah (Mishnah Arakhin 3:5) is "the judgment against our ancestors in the wilderness was sealed only because of their evil speech" - meaning to say the matter of the scouts about which it was stated (Numbers 13:32), "And they put out slander of the land." And they, peace be upon them, said (Arakhin 15a), "And if these that only put out a bad name on trees and stones become liable for what they became liable, how much more is it so for someone who speaks about the disgrace of his fellow!" And this is the language of the Tosefta (Talmud Yerushalmi Peah 1:1): For three sins is there retribution to a person in this world and he does not have a share in the world to come - idolatry, sexual immorality and murder; and evil speech corresponds to all of them [together]. And they said in the Gemara (Arakhin 15b) [that] with idolatry comes the expression, 'the big' - and that is its stating (Exodus 32:31), "Alas, this people is guilty of a big sin." And with the sin of sexual immorality also comes the expression, 'the big' - and that is its stating (Genesis 39:9), "and how can I do the big evil, this one." And with the sin of murder also comes the expression, 'the big' - and that is its stating (Genesis 4:13), "Is my sin too big to carry?" But with evil speech comes the expression 'the big ones' (plural)." [It] means to say that it corresponds to the three of them [together] - and that is its stating (Psalms 12:4) "tongue speaking big things.'" And they spoke about this unsettling sin very much. And the end of that which is said is that "Anyone who speaks evil speech denies the fundamental [faith], as it is stated (Psalms 12:5), 'They say, "By our tongues we shall prevail; with lips such as ours, who can be our master?"'" Indeed, I have said a little of what they said about this sin; even though I have written at length, in order that a man distance himself from it with all of his ability and make his intention to be quiet - meaning to say from this division of speech.

Mouth Control!!

The stone on the Choshen Mishpat corresponding to Shevet Binyamin was ישפה [Yashpeh]. Chazal explain - יש פה ואינו מדבר. He knew about the sale of Yosef but didn't tell Yaakov. He had a mouth but didn't use it!! As the Rebbe Shlita emphasizes - His mouth was under his control and didn't control him. 

That is a GREAT lesson for today. People  can't choose not to control their mouths both in the realms of speech and food consumption. So one AMAZING Avoda for this season is to TAKE CONTROL over our mouths!!! Don't say what shouldn't be said, say what should be said, eat the amount and types of food that should be eaten and STOP when it is too much or the food is BAD for us. "Junk food" is called that for a reason....... 

Monday, August 30, 2021

Awwwwwwkward!!!

That awkward moment when you were a little kid and you tugged at your mother's skirt or father's pants only to look up and see that you had the wrong address... 

That awkward moment as an adult when you looked to flesh and blood for your salvation only to look up and realize that you had the wrong address.... 

סוּס מוּכָן לְיוֹם מִלְחָמָה וְלַיהוָה הַתְּשׁוּעָה [משלי כ"א ל"א]

תורת בושש משה לרדת מן ההר

בעד החלון נשקפה ותיבב אם סיסרא בעד האשנב מדוע בושש רכבו לבא מדוע אחרו פעמי מרכבותיו [שופטים ה כח]. 

היבבה גנוחי גניח וילולי יליל היא ביטוי לקוצר הרוח במצב של בושש לבא מאה פעיות פעיא אימיה דסיסרא. אך לקושטא הרי שבאותה שעה של תוחלת ממושכה נתעברה יעל [עיין עשרה מאמרות להרמ"ע מפאנו חקור הדין ח"ה ספ"י ופי"א] ומשם יצא רבי עקיבא. והרי רבי עקיבא הוא שורש תורה שבעל פה כידוע ותורה שבעל פה היא תורת בושש משה לרדת מן ההר, תורת הבקעת ההסתר מתוך עמל ויגיעה באין גילוי מלמעלה תיקון החטא דהעדר הסבלנות דעץ הדעת וחטא העגל. 

[באור פניך עמ' 261]

הריגת החיים השטחיים

'אין דברי תורה מתקיימין, אלא במי שממית עצמו עליה'. המיתה שבכאן היא הנטייה מפשוטו של החיים […] כל שהאדם מרבה בשבירת המידות מרבה חיים, כי שבירת המידות היא הריגת החיים השטחיים, ומיתה של היצר, הממלא כל הגוף, הוא החיים המוליך בדרכה של תורה. מידות המשחתות רבות הנה, והם עצמו ובשרו של האדם

ליזהר מאוד מאוד מאכילת תענוג ואם בטומאת הגוף יש ראשון לטומאה ויש אב הטומאה ויש אבי אבות, בטומאת הנפש של מלאוי התאווה באכילת תענוג, מתאחד ראשון לטומאה ואב לטומאה ואבי אבות הטומאה, דבר זה הוא מן השפלים מאוד מעכבים את הלימוד וכדאמרו במדרש עד שאדם מתפלל שיכנסו דברי תורה לתוך גופו יתפלל שלא יכנסו מעדנים לתוך גופו. ואמרו בגיטין סעודתך שהנאתך הימנה משוך ידך הימנה. ומהו טוב! וכי לאכול ולשתות? הלא בזה אין מותר לאדם מן הבהמה, חבל על טמטום הלב שלך. 

אגרות החזון איש 

Tales Of The Twitter Generation

…has the ArtScroll Shas remained exactly as it was when first published, or have changes taken place over the years?”

Rabbi Yechezkel Danziger…One of the things I would like to do someday is go over some of the masechtos, especially ones used by younger students, and just lighten up the language, which is over the heads of many people today. The young generation today doesn’t speak English at that level.

Rabbi Eli Herzka: Even in the secular world, you can open up any secular publication and compare the writing with that of the same publication from 20 years ago, and it’s a completely different level of English. You don’t notice it because it’s happening so slowly and it’s subtle, but if you make the comparison, you see it’s not the same at all.

Rabbi Zev Meisels: It’s not just a matter of which words you use, it’s also the style of writing. It’s about keeping the sentences shorter, and not making sentences with 14 clauses.

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How many people learn Rav Gustman's sfarim or similar tomes? Almost nobody. Why? Long, heavy, complex and thorough. People today like short, simple, easy and light.

A big yerida!!!!

But YOU can be the exception and strive to learn things that are difficult and require  a great investment of time and energy!!!   

People love twitter b/c everybody makes their point in a sentence or two with maybe an emoji or 3 thrown in. This engenders superficiality. 

Music videos. People LOVE music videos. Easy to watch. No intellectual toil necessary. A new music video goes up from a Jewish "superstar" - BOOM, 20k views in no time. Let's say shiurim of Rav Asher Arieli would go on you tube. Like - the most popular maggid shiur alive. Let us just say that it would not garner anywhere near the same popularity as a guy lip synching while walking down the street or driving his car or other even greater stupidities even though it is 1000 million times more intellectually stimulating. Not to mention that to listen is the greatest mitzva in the world [ותלמוד תורה כנגד כולם]. So is our generation. דור השטחיות. Saaaaaaaaaaaaaddd!! 

The bright side - There ARE people looking for depth. אשריהם ואשרי חלקם!!!!!!  

Bava Kamma 71a-b: Shlichus Li-dvar Aveirah With A Mumar

 HERE!!

Yado Al Ha-elyona

I received no answer from my many readers [2 on a great day. 3 on a bonanza day!!!] on this - but MIRACULOUSLY [!!!!] I found THIS!!!

Whats "Yado Al Ha-elyona" Got To Do With It??? - HELP!



Tosfos:
 
יכול לחזור בו אפי' בחצי היום. וא"ת ומאי קמ"ל והלא בפרק האומנין (לקמן דף עז.) לא פליגי רבי דוסא ורבנן אלא דר' דוסא סבר דיד פועל על התחתונה ורבנן סברי דידו על העליונה אבל לכולהו יכול לחזור בו וי"ל דקמ"ל דיכול לחזור בו וידו על העליונה כרבנן אפילו אם נתייקרו פועלים בחצי היום לאחר שחזר בו לא יפחתו לו מחצי שכרו ולכך מייתי מילתיה דרב דכיון דידו על העליונה א"כ אין ידו כיד בעל הבית וכן מוכיח בפרק האומנין (שם) דסובר כרבנן בשכיר יום ולא בקבלנות:

BY GOLLY!!!! How do we know that Rav paskens like the Rabanan??? Where does Tosfos get that from?? And how does that make his hand less כיד בעל הבית than if ידו על התחתונה like R' Dosa???

The Secret Of Successful Rosh Hashana And Yom Kippur Tefillos

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שלושה צפצופים

 כשההצלחה לא מאירה פנים 

המשגיח ר' יחזקאל לוינשטיין זצ"ל אמר בשם ה'סבא מקלם' אדם שרוצה להיות עובד ה' חייב שיהיו לו שלושה 'ציפצופים' [אמר את דבריו ב'אידיש' בלשוננו הכוונה ל'ציפצופים']:

 'ציפצוף' ראשון - לצפצף על העולם לא להתפעל ממה שהעולם ולאן שהעולם חותר ומחפש. אם תתפעל מהעולם לא יצא ממך דבר. 

'ציפצוף' שני - לצפצף על סביבות האדם וזה כולל חברים וידידים משפחה שאינם הולכים בדרך הישר ואומרים לך 'מה יצא ממך'. צפצף. אם תתפעל מהם לא תצליח. 

'ציפצוף' שלישי - האדם על עצמו אדם עובד את הקב"ה וההצלחה והלאה צפצף על זה אל תתפעל. 

I Am Looking For Four Beautiful Perfect Heretics!!!

ארבע מינים.

Matanos La-evyonim On Rosh Hashana?

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GREAT Epitaph Idea!!

 "Here lies Herby Friedman

He was always soooo tired

He is FINALLY getting a good sleep

PLEASE keep your voices down

RIP Herby

You'll be missed"

Rosh Hashana - Hearing Beyond The Words

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Sunday, August 29, 2021

How Is Shofar Different Than All Other Mitzvos?

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תשפ"ב - Take Control

 ת'הא ש'נת פ'לאפון ב'מגירה. 

I can't speak for anyone else. Only for myself. I have [to my dismay..] a cell phone. It is "kosher". No internet, no texting, no apps. Just receiving and making calls. Whenever I DON'T have the phone on me, I put it away, in a proverbial drawer ["במגירה"] - I am happier. No distractions. I can focus on whatever I am doing with no chance for interruptions from any human being who possesses the motorial skills to dial a few numbers in a specific order.  I watch people around me and MAMESH NEBUCH. 

Addicted. 

24-6 busy with their phone in one form or another. Always "on call". Sad and arousing pity. Never ever fully present. People have trouble just walking down the street without blabbering away. No introspection. No processing people and events. Just blah blah blah blah. An endless flow of mostly meaningless verbiage. [There is a lot to discuss about the קלקול לכח הדיבור ואכמ"ל].  

I am not talking about all of the issurim on everyone's phone [נושא נכבד כשלעצמו]. Just about the capacity to be present. To focus on your spouse, children, learning, davening and whatever person happens to be in front of you. I grew up in the 70's. I am not suggesting we return there and use typewriters etc. etc. I AM suggesting that we take control of technology and stop letting technology control us. In some ways - things were MUCH BETTER back then.  

ת'הא ש'נת פ'ועל ב'חכמה. [Our 13th Roshei Teivos for this year!!] 

Act with wisdom. Be a מרא דחושבנא. Don't follow the herd

So put your phones away at least most of the time and LIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Tkiyas Shofar - From Brokenness To Completion

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Is There A Din "Shaliach Li-dvar Aveirah" For Meilah, Shlichus Yad And Tevicha?

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Pipul Charif Bi-din "Shlichus Li-dvar Aveirah And Ain Holchin Bi-Mamon Achar Ha-rov" [Ksubos 33b Bava Kamma 71a]

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WHAT IS ROSH HASHANA?

 A MILLION BUCKS!!!

Hasra'as Safek: A Nazir Who Drinks At The Last Moment Of His Nezirus

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This Year - Racial Equity, Torah, Geulah And More!!!!

 A friend asked me for a Roshei Teivos for תשפ"ב that is coming upon us! 

Here goes: 

תהא שנת פאנדמיק ביהיינד-ות - pandemic behind-us!!!!!!!!!!
תהא שנת פורקן בארץ - redemption in Israel!!!!!!!!!!!
תהא שנת פליאות בעולם - wonders in the world!!!!!!!!!!!!
תהא שנת פלילות בשונאינו - judgements for our enemies [see Sanhedrin 82]!!!!!
תהא שנת פריון בנשים - fruitful women!!!!!!!
תהא שנת פריחה בתורה - growth in learning!!!!!!!!!!!!
תהא שנת פלפול בתורה - One of the six ?'s we are asked when we die is פלפלת בחכמה [Shabbos 31b]. 
תהא שנת פליי באללללללל!!!!!!!!!!!! Play Ball
תהא שנת פאנס בשפע - a bounty of puns!!!!!!!!!!!
תהא שנת בלאק פאוור - a year of Black Power!!! Man will no longer be judged by the color of his skin but by the content of his character!!! [MLK]
תהא שנת פיטורי ביידן - a year that Biden is fired. Maybe he is a great Prez. [maybe...]. But nebuch a man his age shouldn't be under so much pressure. He should be retired and enjoying life in a place like Deerfield Beach!!


Saturday, August 28, 2021

Vidui As Tefilla

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Is Hashem Immanent Or Transcendental?

Herd Immunity Is A Myth!!

 There is NO SUCH THING as herd immunity!!! 

I am not referring to physical illnesses and Wuhan-dike viruses. Doctors say that there IS herd immunity and we should strive to achieve that. 

I am referring to spiritual herd immunity. Just b/c "everybody" speaks Lashon Hara doesn't excuse one, make him innocent or absolve him from punishment. Just b/c everybody wastes time on nonsense [usually in the form of a not-so-smart-phone] doesn't make one immune from being taken to task by the celestial court for his waste of time [or worse ח"ו!!!]. The same applies to all of the indiscretions and misbehaviors of the herd. 

So let us separate ourselves from the herd and cling to Hashem and His Holy Servants!!!!!!!!!

The Type Of Person We Should Strive to Be


יש איש מתאוה להיטיב לזולתו,
הפגשו עם רעהו הוא לו לחדות לב,
מקבלו בסבר פנים יפות,
חרד אולי לא קלע אל המטרה לפי רוח רעהו,
אולי דיבר דבר שלא כהוגן,
כי אין כאב לב אצלו
ככאב של פגיעה בכבוד חברו,
או שחסר מרעהו חסד.

There is a [kind of] person who desires benefiting others.
Encounters with his friends is for him a joy in the heart,
he greets with with a pleasant countenance,
fears that perhaps he misses the mark according to his friend’s spirit,
perhaps he said something inappropriate.
For he has no pain in his heart
like the pain of impinging on his friend’s honor,
or that he omitted some act of lovingkindness from his friend.

ומעולם לא נפגע הוא מרעהו,
כי לבו המלא אהבה תכסה על כל פשעים.
והוא מוכן מראש לקבל באהבה נאמנה
פצעים ונזיפות שיחלוק לו רעהו,
בידעו שאין רוב בני אדם אצילי המדות ומה אפשר לתבוע מהם.
ובכל זאת רוחש לבו להם יקר וכבוד,
ואין בלבו הרהורים רעים מעין זלזול בכבוד הבריות,

But he never does get insulted by others,
for his heart that is full of love covers up all sins.
And he is prepared in advance to accept with sincere love
barbs and criticism that his friends mete out on him,
in his knowledge that most people do not have the most noble middos, and what can one demand of them?
Yet with all this, his heart values and respects them,
and his heart does not hold evil speculations of the sort that disdains another’s honor.

כי תפנוקי הנפש מפנקים את בעליהם להיות משמש למען הטוב המלא,
גם בשני הפכים בנושא אחד,

ולהיות מאשים את עצמו על כל שעל
על חסרון השלימות בסגולת המדות,

ולהיות מזכה את אחיו זכות גמורה ומוחלטת
אף אם כעבות עגלה חטאיו.

The sensitivities of the soul motivate their owners to utilize, for the sake of the complete good
both of two opposites in a single topic:

To accept blame for himself at all times
for any lack of perfection in the virtue of middos,

and [yet simultaneously] considers his friend completely and absolutely meritorious,
even if his sins are [many,] like a laden cart.

יקיר הנפש דנן, אינו דורש מנפשו התאפקות יתירה, וחגירת שארית כח,
נגד הרגזנות הטבעית, ונגד כאב של הלבנת פנים,
כי נפשו כבר מלוטשת ומצוחצחת שאינה מקבלת כתמים, והוא שובע שמחות וגיל בנעימות נצח.

The dear one of the soul in question does not demand from his soul excessive restraint
against natural irritability, and against [causing] the pain of one’s face blanching [in embarrassment],
Because his soul is already refined and polished, which does not get stains, and he is full of happiness and rejoices in eternal pleasure.

– חזון איש על עניני אמונה ובטחון, שאר א’ “אמונה”, פרק י”א

Friday, August 27, 2021

Holy Of Holies

For the record - someone who spends 16 hours a day in the Beis Medrash is Kodesh Kodashim [if he has Yiras Shomayim and Middos Tovos]. :ועיין סנהדרין צ"ט . 

והוא רחום יכפר עוון!

FUNDAMENTAL SHIUR - THE MECHANICS OF TFILLA!

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