Sunday, September 27, 2026

נריה דב בן חנה

Israeli Ambassador to the United States Dr. Yechiel Leiter issued an update on the condition of his son Neria, an IDF reservist who was critically wounded in a terrorist ramming attack in the Binyamin Region last week.


In his statement, the Ambassador thanked the public for their prayers and support, while emphasizing that his son's condition remains life-threatening despite some encouraging signs.


"My family joins me in thanking everyone for their prayers and support," Leiter wrote. "Neria's life still hangs in the balance, but we've seen some promising signs that we grasp in hope."


The Ambassador expressed his family's faith in the power of prayer, stating, "We believe in the power of prayer, that G-d hears prayer and can heal when healing appears impossible."


Leiter also asked the public to extend their prayers beyond his son to include others who have suffered serious injuries in terrorist attacks.



"Along with my sense of gratitude to all for caring, I would like to request that the prayers for Neria include good wishes for all those who have sustained serious injuries at the hands of terrorists," he wrote.


"They and their colleagues are the heroes who ensure that we will persevere and win the battle against those who spread murder and mayhem. It is a struggle for the future of civilization, no less."


Neria was seriously wounded in a terrorist ramming attack in the Binyamin Region last week. His father returned to Israel to be at his bedside following the attack.


The Ambassador's family previously suffered the loss of Neria's older brother, Maj. (res.) Moshe Yedidya Leiter, who fell in battle in the Gaza Strip.


The public is asked to continue praying for the recovery of Neria Dov ben Chana, among all those in need of healing

Thursday, September 24, 2026

Women Earns Husband Money By Returning Items To Target

LAKEWOOD NJ - Local Sofer Stam R' Moishe Bayer was reportedly welcomed home Tuesday by his wife, Sara'le, who proudly announced that she had earned $484.50 that afternoon by successfully returning items to Target.

According to sources, the earnings were generated after Sara'le spent two hours driving to Target, standing in the customer service line, and returning a decorative throw pillow, a scented Havdala candle, and three dresses she had purchased four days earlier for an upcoming simcha.

"I made almost $500 today!" Sara'le told her husband as he walked in after Mincha/Maariv. "It was a lot of work, but a pretty solid payday, Baruch Hashem, right? You're not the only breadwinner around here, haha."

Moishe, who had spent the day writing Mezuzos for 9 hours to earn an actual parnassah, sat in quiet contemplation as he digested the financial windfall.

"So… we are down $25 and two hours of gas?" Moishe asked carefully.

"No, silly," Sara'le clarified. "We basically got a free $484. If you think about it, I'm practically funding our Yom Tov expenses!"

At publishing time, Sara'le had informed her husband that she had used the proceeds to help cover the cost of a $300 set of Linen & Towel bedding for the guest room.

 

מטרת כתיבת המ"ב

הרב טולנפלד מרמת שלמה סיפר לי שאביו למד אצל מרן החפץ חיים. באחת השבתות הזמינו החפץ חיים לסעוד על שולחנו הוא ראה שהחפץ חיים נוהג בהלכה מסויימת לא כפי שהוא עצמו כתב בספרו 'משנה ברורה' לכן הוא שאל בעדינות ובדרך כבוד את החפץ חיים, הרי בספר 'משנה ברורה' כתוב לא כך? השיב החפץ חיים - ספר זה נכתב למי שאין לו מסורת מאבותיו איך לקיים את ההלכה. 

Communication Diet

 In this post, I am going to make an unusual and seemingly counterproductive recommendation for better mental health. I am going to recommend that you do less of things that are interesting, informative, and entertaining.


But all these activities foster personal growth. Why would I suggest you do less of them? Read on as I explain.


What I’ll discuss here are the choices we must make to thrive in Western culture without falling victim to its excesses. The choices I have in mind are about things that educate, enlighten, interest, and entertain us. This will not be about major life choices such as our health, relationships and careers. As I think you’ll agree, we are now bombarded by content of all kinds that can leave us quite overwhelmed and psychologically unwell. We need a way of dealing with this without leaving quality content behind.


The solution is a practice of intentional simplicity. That will include electing not to pursue things that may enlighten, interest, inform, or entertain us. We can do this and still maintain our quality of life, personal development, and good citizenship.


To better understand this, let’s look at some recent human history: how dietary habits changed during the 1950s, 60s, and 70s. For all human history prior to those decades, there was never an excess of food. Food always existed on the edge of scarcity. No one worried about eating too much or even eating the wrong things. Just eating was enough to worry about.


But in the decades mentioned above, something happened that has never been the case in human history. There was an excess of food throughout Western culture. You could live comfortably, have a full belly, and do virtually no exercise. This combination made for some very unhealthy people.


The conclusion of the medical establishment and the citizens of Western society was that they had to eat less and choose what they ate more carefully. That seems completely normal to us now, but considered in the grand sweep of history, it was a remarkable and unprecedented change. What I propose is similar but instead of food, it deals with certain facets of our mental life. What’s at stake is our emotional well-being.


We are currently bombarded with choices in all forms of information and expression. The internet has caused an explosion of articles, videos, blogs, and podcasts that make the printing press look like a small increment in production. Ideas, counter-ideas, and counter-counter-ideas now exist for every corner of human experience. We must make serious attempts to prune the investment of our attention just as we carefully choose how much and what we eat.

Let’s begin with an example from the news. This may be a newspaper, social media, podcast or wherever you get your news. Imagine you see an article whose headline is: a politician you know has voted in favor of a policy you endorse. Normally, you might open and read the article, but judging from the headline, you’re probably not going to learn more than what the headline and subtitle stated. You’ll likely learn some details which you will quickly forget. There will be other examples in your news source that may look just as interesting on the surface, perhaps entertaining or novel.


Our society is awash in sources of communication and entertainment. Cities are buzzing with opinions, artistic expression, and new experiences. Going down each rabbit hole will deteriorate your attention as you’re spending it on making your way through this tangle of words and images rather than benefiting from it.


Attention is not something we have an infinite amount of. It is very much like energy. You only have so much and when you spend it, it’s gone. If you spend too much of it over a long period of time, the chronic deficit will cause some damage. This may be a stress related illness such as migraines, irritable bowel disease, fatigue, or hypertension; or more commonly psychological effects on your mood, level of tension, relationships, and overall sense of well-being. On a deeper level, your vulnerability to mental disorders such as depression goes up significantly.


There is certainly nothing wrong with delving into interesting articles. In fact, you may benefit and enjoy all of them. The important thing, and the point here, is that the communication world is now an ocean of such articles. You could spend your entire day with one news source going through perfectly interesting or entertaining articles. But we now live in a different world. Rather than dive into everything that piques our interest, we must make decisions and actively curtail these efforts.


Now, when I read the paper, I look over a group of articles and decide which are most likely to inform me about something important or show me content that is entertaining or new. Out of perhaps 10 articles I look at I will read only one or two. And even those I may read just the beginning because that’s where the basic information is.

The pruning process is twofold. First, I am deciding which information sources are likely to truly increase my knowledge and understanding (or entertain). Second, I am simply choosing fewer sources irrespective of their potential value. So better sources and less content overall is the goal to take an active role in simplifying your life.


In addition to news articles, we could consider books, new restaurants, and other examples of possible sources of novelty or interest. I would use the same decision process to prune all these down.


This may sound like a formula for a boring life. A rule more fit for a monastery than modern life. It may also raise the question as to whether a simple life makes you simple-minded. Just like the food diet which leaves you with more energy than over-eating; the communication diet leaves you with a calmer mind that is not lost in the jungle of opinion and expression. It also opens the gates of your mind to wander, reflect, and calmly notice what and who is around you.


This should not be taken to the point of changing your quality of life. Each person will be different in how this works for them. Some, like me, value simplicity. Others enjoy the wilds of opinions and originality. The goals of better choosing and few choices overall remain the same, but the final product will be different for everyone. The effects of simplicity on a calmer and more open mind are really what we are looking for.


Life in our modern era has brought new and unexpected challenges to maintain our humanity. In an age of excess, simplification will be a bigger part of that effort. In any of these efforts, it is vital to understand that less is more. Our humanity will shine through if we do not obstruct it.

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For us Jews - the charge not to waste our time and mind space on nonsense is especially critical.

Dozens Of New Shiurim BS"D!!!

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Wednesday, September 23, 2026

The Need To Believe

המסד העיוני-אינטלקטואלי של האמונה ברור: אין אנו מכוננים אמונה מתוך צורך פסיכולוגי להתמודד עם עולם כאוטי. אנו יודעים באופן מולד, מתוך המסורת ההיסטורית העוברת מדור לדור מאז מתן תורה, ומתוך התבוננות במורכבות המתוכננת של הבריאה, כי ה' קיים ומנהיג את התבל.


עם זאת, הכרת האמת האובייקטיבית היא רק מחצית מן המשוואה. תפיסת התורה מזהה כי ה' טבע בנפש האדם תלות רגשית עמוקה באמונה. האמונה אינה פוזיציה אינטלקטואלית גרידא או חישוב היסטורי; היא חבל הצלה קיומי וחיוני הנדרש ליציבות רגשית, לחוסן ולסדר פנימי.


צורך הנפש בסדר: הקבלה רוחנית וביולוגית

כשם שהגוף האנושי אינו מסוגל פיזיולוגית לשרוד ללא חמצן ותזונה חומרית, כך הנשמה והפסיכה האנושית אינן יכולות לתפקד בריק קיומי המרוקן מתכלית אלוהית. החיים הפיזיים דורשים הזנה כדי למנוע כשל אורגני; באופן דומה, המנגנונים הרגשיים והקוגניטיביים שלנו דורשים את המסגרת הכוללת של ההשגחה האלוהית כדי לקיים שיווי משקל פנימי.


כאשר מודעות יסודית זו נעדרת או מתנפצת בעקבות סבל, תודעת האדם עומדת בפני ערעור חמור. ללא המציאות המייצבת של טובו המוחלט של ה' וידו המכוונת, הטראומה מולידה פרגמנטציה פסיכולוגית עמוקה — אובדן אוריינטציה, חרדה משקת ותחושת ריקנות משתקת.


משכך, הדירשה לתכלית אלוהית היא הרבה מעבר לתרגיל פילוסופי מופשט. זהו מנגנון חיוני של שימור עצמי נפשי ורוחני. בני האדם מתוכננים מבית ליצור סדר, משמעות ואמת מוסרית מוחלטת, וזאת מכיוון שבעולם זה ישנם סדר, משמעות ואמת מוסרית מוחלטת. נישול התודעה ממבנה מאחד זה חושף את החוויה האנושית למצב בלתי נסבל של כאוס פנימי.


הניווט בסבל: האמונה כעוגן קוגניטיבי ורגשי

החוויה האנושית ניצבת בשגרה מול מציאויות כואבות — טרגדיה, מחלה ואכזריות אנושית. בעיני מתבונן הרואה את העולם דרך פריזמה חומרית בלבד, אירועים אלה נתפסים כתיגר על מציאותו של בורא להיב, ומאיימים להפיל את הצופה לתהומות הייאוש.


בפסיכולוגיה החילונית, הדחף לקיים אמונה בלב הטרגדיה מתוייג לעיתים מזומנות כרציונליזציה או כמנגנון הגנה. אולם מנקודת המבט של התורה, שמירת האמונה מתוך הקושי אינה הכחשת המציאות, אלא הלימה עם מציאות גבוהה יותר. זוהי ההכרה בכך שהלוגיקה האנושית מוגבלת, בעוד שתכליתו של ה' מקיפה מציאות החורגת בהרבה מתפיסתנו המיידית.


במקום שבו השכל מגיע לקצה גבולו, האמונה והביטחון נכנסים לתמונה. האמונה המזקקת התמרה של כאב גולמי ומייסר למשהו בעל תכלית בתוך תוכנית אלוהית רחבה יותר. היא מגינה על התודעה מנפילה למסקנה הקודרת כי היקום מנוהל על ידי אקראיות מוחלטת או כאוס אדיש.


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גבולות הרציונליזם ועומק האמונה

הערכת האמונה אך ורק דרך הפריזמה הבלעדית והצרה של ספקנות עובדתית צוננת מחטיאה לחלוטין את אופן פעולתה של הנפש האנושית. כאשר יחידים נתקלים באובדן מקומם, השכל הטהור מציע הסברים לדרך שבה אירועים פיזיים המתרחשים, אך הוא חסר אונים לחלוטין במתן מענה לצורך הנואש של הנפש להבין למה.


הלוגיקה הקרה מספקת אבחנה, אך אינה מציעה כל סיבה להתמיד ולשרוד. האמונה מספקת את המסגרת הטרנסצנדנטית המעניקה לסבל האנושי תכלית, ומעניקה לקיום משמעות ואת הכוח להשתקם לאחר טרגדיה.


המנגנון של העמידות האנושית

בסופו של דבר, הצורך האנושי בסדר אלוהי אינו שגיאה או תכונה מקרית בטבענו, אלא היבט יסודי בארכיטקטורה שבה ברא אותנו ה'. הדחף לדעת כי חיינו ומאבקינו שזורים בתוך תכנון אלוהי כולל הוא אבן פינה בחוסן האנושי.


בעוד שהאהבה כובלת אותנו ליחידים מסוימים, האמונה כובלת אותנו לעצם הקיום, ומונעת מהעצמי להיכנע לייאוש. זוהי לנו כוח פעיל וחיוני להישרדות ועמידות — המעניק לאדם את התעצומות הנפשיות והרוחניות לעמוד איתן מול הסערות העזות ביותר של החיים ולהמשיך לצעוד קדימה מתוך תכלית.


The intellectual baseline of emunah is clear: we do not construct belief out of a psychological need to cope with a chaotic world. We know innately and through historical mesorah spanning generations from Matan Torah, and through observing the intricate design of Creation, that Hashem exists and governs the universe.

However, acknowledging objective truth is only half the equation. The Torah perspective recognizes that Hashem crafted the human soul with a profound emotional dependence on belief. Emunah is not merely an intellectual posture or a historical calculation; it is a vital, existential lifeline required for emotional stability, resilience, and inner order.

The Soul’s Need for Order: A Spiritual and Biological Parallel

Just as the human body is physiologically incapable of surviving without oxygen and physical nourishment, the neshamah and human psyche cannot function in an existential vacuum stripped of divine purpose. Physical life requires nourishment to prevent organic failure; similarly, our emotional and cognitive faculties require the overarching framework of Hashem’s Providence (hashgachah) to sustain internal equilibrium.

When this foundational awareness is absent or shattered by suffering, the mind faces severe destabilization. Without the grounding reality of Hashem's ultimate good and guiding hand, trauma yields deep psychological fragmentation—disorientation, debilitating anxiety, and a paralyzing sense of emptiness.

Seeking divine purpose is therefore far more than an abstract philosophical exercise. It is a vital mechanism of psychological and spiritual self-preservation. Human beings are inherently wired to seek order, meaning, and ultimate moral truth, because this world HAS order, meaning and ultimate moral truth. Stripping the mind of this unifying structure exposes the human experience to an unendurable state of internal chaos.

Navigating Suffering: Faith as a Cognitive and Emotional Anchor

Human experience is routinely confronted with painful realities—tragedy, illness, and human cruelty. To an observer viewing the world purely through a physical lens, these events appear to challenge the presence of a Benevolent Creator, threatening to plunge the observer into despair.

In secular psychology, the drive to maintain belief amidst tragedy is often labeled as rationalization or defense. From a Torah view, however, maintaining emunah through difficulty is not a denial of reality, but an alignment with a higher one. It is the recognition that human logic is limited, while Hashem’s plan encompasses a reality far beyond our immediate perception.

Where intellect reaches its limits, emunah and bitachon step in. Faith transforms raw, agonizing pain into something purposeful within a greater divine plan. It protects the mind from falling into the dark conclusion that the universe is governed by total randomness or indifferent chaos.


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The Limits of Rationalism and the Depth of Emunah

Evaluating faith solely through the narrow lens of cold factual skepticism fundamentally misses how the human soul operates. When individuals encounter devastating loss, pure intellect offers explanations of how physical events occur, but it is utterly incapable of answering the soul’s desperate need to understand why.


Cold logic provides a diagnosis, but offers no reason to persevere. Emunah provides the transcendent framework that gives human suffering purpose, granting personhood meaning and the strength to rebuild after tragedy.


The Mechanism of Human Endurance

Ultimately, the human need for divine order is not a quirk in our nature, but a fundamental aspect of how Hashem designed us. The drive to know that our lives and struggles are woven into an overarching divine design is a cornerstone of human resilience.

While love tethers us to specific individuals, emunah tethers us to existence itself, preventing the self from surrendering to despair. It is an active, indispensable force for endurance—granting a person the psychological and spiritual strength to stand firm amidst life’s fiercest storms and continue moving forward with purpose.