"The actions of men are the best interpreters of their thoughts."
James Joyce
Very often people say things but it is clear that they are not being honest because their action express the opposite of what they are saying. I see this all of the time. Painful....
האדם יראה לעינים וה' יראה ללבב. - שמואל א, ט"ז ז
Be honest with yourself and others - Hashem knows what is in your heart:-).