CHANGING
1. On a scale of 1 to 10 how would you rate your willingness to make
positive changes in your behavior and traits?
2. What major positive changes have you made in the past?
3. When have you found it easy to make positive changes?
4. When have you found it difficult to make changes in the past?
5. In those situations when you, found it difficult to make positive
changes what would have helped make it easier?
6. Do you associate making changes in your behavior and personality
as painful or pleasurable?
7. If you usually view change as painful, when have you made a change
that was pleasurable?
8. What thoughts do or would enable you to feel pleasure when you try
to make changes?
9. When do you fear making positive changes?
10. If you fear making positive changes, what is the worst thing that
would happen if .you were to make those positive changes?
11. If someone suggests ways in which you can make positive changes,
do you tend to be grateful or do you tend to be resentful?
12. Do you ever say, “I can’t change/’ when you really mean, “I choose
not to make the effort to change.”?
13. In what ways do you say that you would like to make positive
changes but your behavior implies that you do not really want to change?
14. Do you feel that other people have a responsibility to help you
change or do you realize that only you are responsible for yourself?
15. What changes in your behavior or personality do you wish to
make?
16. Do you have a plan of action to change? If not, when will you make
a plan?
17. What changes in your relationships with others do you wish to
make?
18. When you and someone else do not get along, do you feel that you
must change, they must change, or both must change?
19. In what ways do you show that you believe it is never too late to
change?
20. Do you spend more time trying to figure out why you are the way
you are or on actually trying to improve?
21. When have you allowed mistakes to stop you from making an
effort to change?
22. When do you view mistakes as a cue to try harder?
23. When do you find it so much easier to feel guilty than to change,
that all you do is feel guilty without taking positive action?
24. When have you tried to change things that cannot be changed?
25. What major attitude changes have you made in the past?
26. If you are highly unsatisfied with your present occupation, are you
willing to change it. If not, why?
27. When have you remained in a situation that was no longer
appropriate for you because you feared to make a change?
28. About which of your faults and negative traits do you say, “This is
the way I am and 1 will not change."
29. (With no. 28) What prevents you from making-those changes?
30. (With no. 28) Even if you can’t totally change those traits, what can
you do to modify them?
31. If it were very easy to make any changes you wished in your
behavior and personality, what changes would you make?
32. What inner resources would help you make the changes you wish
to make? When have you experienced those inner resources at any time
the past?
33. What books can you read to help you change?
34. Whom can you consult for advice on how to change?
35. What five changes would you strongly wish to make in your daily
life routine?
36. What minor changes can you make in those areas even if a rnajor
change is not feasible?
37. What insights about yourself have helped you change yourself for
the better?
38. When you want to make positive behavioral changes, are you
careful to clarify the exact present state and the planned state to be able to
check your progress?
39. When you find changing a trait difficult, do you role-play, that is,
imagine that you have already changed that trait and see how it is easier
to act the new way than you originally had thought?
40. What plan can you presently make to act in an opposite manner of
your usual tendency in order to change a trait?
R' Pliskin
