Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Supreme Acceptance

“The most effective attitude to adopt is one of supreme acceptance. The world is full of people with different characters and temperaments. We all have a dark side, a tendency to manipulate, and aggressive desires. The most dangerous types are those who repress their desires or deny the existence of them, often acting them out in the most underhanded ways. Some people have dark qualities that are especially pronounced. You cannot change such people at their core, but must merely avoid becoming their victim. You are an observer of the human comedy, and by being as tolerant as possible, you gain a much greater ability to understand people and to influence their behavior when necessary”

The Seventh Day Of Pesach - A Time For Friendship

Shaaallooommmmm swweeeeetest friends!!!!!!!!!!

This dvar Torah should be a zchus for the refuah of Yitzchak ben Bracha and Naomi bas Tova.

Also, for Rav Yehoshua Weinberg, his holy wife, parents, brothers and child. They should ALL have only bracha and chesed all the days of their lives.

And a special zchus for R' Avromi Sommers and family for אך טוב וחסד כל ימי חייהם!

And to Rav Zevi Reinitz and his mishpocho for simcha and brocho ba-kol!

Also, li-ilui nishmas R' Shmuel Pinchas ben R' Yaakov Tzvi whose yahrtzeit is the 24th of Nissan. He was my grandfather and I hope that the little good I have done in my life is a constant source of merits for him. I am certain that the amazing amount of good his very large amount of descendents are constantly doing is elevating him to higher and higher places in the world of truth. In this world he sold diamonds but where he is all that remains are the diamonds of children, grandchildren and great grandchildren that he produced who are following derech Hashem. May we all leave such a mark on the world as he has.    

I certainly hope that you are enjoying yourselves  wherever you may be this Pesach. This is no time to think of all of your problems. Just to bask in the glorious light [thank G-d the sun shines so brightly on the beach] of our holy-days and feel unmitigated simcha.


We are on the cusp of the seventh day of Pesach, the day that is supposed to bring us to a higher level of Emunah, one of ויאמינו בה' ובמשה עבדו - belief in Hashem and in His tzadikim and leaders. It is important to look deeply into the story of kriyas yam suf in order to get the most out of the day and out of our lives.

In our daily davening we say about the miracle of the splitting of the sea וידידים העברת - you passed your "friends" [through the sea]. Interesting that we are called "friends". The simple meaning is that we are friends with Hashem. It can also mean that we became friendly with EACH OTHER. After a harrowing experience [such as being pursued by a few million bloodthirsty Arabs as happened before the splitting of the sea] and salvation, the survivors feel a sense of camaraderie and closeness. וידידים העברת.

Chazal tell us that the sea split into 12 sections, one for each tribe. This shows that each tribe must maintain their own distinct path. On the other hand, another medrash teaches that each tribe could clearly see the other tribes and they were talking to each other as they passed through [see Yalkut Makiri, Tehillim 136/19 and Torah Shleima 144].

This teaches that even though one must maintain his own unique path in life, that doesn't mean that he negates the path and life choices of others. We must respect and embrace others who choose to serve Hashem in ways that are at times not identical to our own path.

The Sfas Emes [in his very last piece on Pesach] says that not only was every tribe worthy of having the sea split for themselves but every INDIVIDUAL was worthy of having the sea split on his or her behalf. That is the meaning of the pasuk אתה פוררת בעזך ים - You made the sea into "crumbs" with your strength. These "crumbs" symbolize that EVERY JEW is worthy of having his own kriyas yam suf.

Jews are compared to the "sand of the sea" and also to stars in the sky. The earth [sand], sea, and heavens [stars] are all created for US. So that we can testify to the existence of Hashem and spread his light on earth. Every Jew has a portion in this revelation. That is why it is so important to value and love every Jew.

This means that this שביעי של פסח is the PERFECT time to stop being critical of others. Your husband - he is NOT perfect and will never be. But cut him some slack, he has many good qualities as well. The same applies to your wife [although the odds of you having a husband and wife are quite slim] and children. Let people be people - fallible by nature and their very definition. Love them, embrace them and give them the feeling that they are "yedidim" - good friends. You need them and they need you.

From a book "  “On the road to success there is absolutely no room for criticism of self or others. Insecurity and fear masquerade as jealousy and judgment. Finding faults in others wastes time as we attempt to remove the bricks from other people’s foundations – time that could be better spent building our own."

Sound advice.

BELOVED YEDIDIM!! I wish you all a very sweet yuntiv and Shabbos filled with limitless bracha and spiritual elevation!!!

Bi-ahava rabba ,

[Based on the words of the Tolna Rebbe Shlita]

Let Go

“Before you can live a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.”

Tuesday, April 26, 2016


C'mon - be a romantic!!!

Sing your wife Eishes Chayil in Spanish!

Yetzias Mitzraim

"Farlor ergo sum"

"I err therefore I am"

You want to change? Admit error. People work so hard to prove to themselves and the rest of mankind that they are right. Letting go of preconceptions and common habits of thoughts and practice is a boon to change and the beginning of the road to greatness. 

Mitzrayim comes from the word "meitzarim" - boundries.

Leave your meitzarim! 

Monday, April 25, 2016


Don't Be Afraid To Change

Abaye was a Kohen and was eligible to receive the coveted Zro'a, L'Chayayin, and Keiva, shoulder, tongue, and stomach of every animal slaughtered. The gemara Chulin (133a) tells us that initially, Abaye in his enthusiasm to show how important the mitzva is, used to grab these pieces of meat from the people who slaughtered the animal. Later when he heard that the pasuk says these pieces should be "given" to the Kohen, he stopped taking them himself but started to tell the people to give it to him. When he heard that the Navi criticized the children of Shmuel HaNavi for "asking" for the Matanos, he stopped asking but continued to accept them when offered. When he heard the Braisa says that the modest Kohanim would pass on the opportunity to get a piece of the holy Lechem HaPanim while the aggressive ones would grab, he stopped accepting altogether.

The Mei Shiloach says that the nature of a person whose opinion is attacked or even questioned, is to stand up and defend himself vigorously. This is especially of a person of stature and even more so when it comes to his personal conduct. Admitting error puts a blemish on his past behavior, which a public persona has trouble dealing with both on his own account and that of his position.

Abaye exhibited the exact opposite behavior. Despite that after his own internal lengthy debate, he decided that grabbing the Matanos showed the most respect for the Mitzvos, as soon as he even "heard" that his way may not be correct, rather than defend himself he chose to change his ways. Still when that did not prove sufficient to stem the voices of dissent, Abaye once again altered his behavior without any argument. And then he did it for third time. Could you imagine the shame of a Gadol HaDor swallowing his pride three times over the same issue?

Abaye, says the Mei Shiloach, set an example how all of ones conduct must be totally L'Shem Shamayim without any consideration of ones own ego. One must always seek the truth no matter what is at stake for him personally.