Monday, April 27, 2015

A Link To Just A Few Of The Many New Shiurim Hashem Granted Me

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Tadir vi-sheaino tadir - iyun mechudash.

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Baruch Shem - part 1 and part 2.

 
 
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Have A Burning Desire

If you're bored with life - you don't get up every morning with a burning desire to do things - you don't have enough goals.
Lou Holtz

You Can't Trust 'Em

I asked a ref if he could give me a technical foul for thinking bad things about him. He said, of course not. I said, well, I think you stink. And he gave me a technical. You can't trust 'em.
Jim Valvano

A Perfect Day

You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.
John Wooden

Who You Really Are

Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
John Wooden

Why The Holocaust?

Rav Lichtenstein ztz"l from etzion.org
 
The Holocaust raises many intractable questions: What were its historical roots and antecedents? How could such a cultured people commit such a crime? But the question which concerns us principally is the prophetic query echoing throughout the generations, the question of theodicy: Why do the righteous suffer?
 
            A number of possible approaches have been put forth to tackle this problem.
 
            a) Not only is it untrue that God ignored what was transpiring, but, on the contrary, the Holocaust was the fulfillment of His will. We need to recognize this and confess that it occurred “because of our sins.” If we view the Holocaust as a punishment, we may answer the question of the suffering of the righteous with another question: Why do we ignore our own behavior preceding the Holocaust? If we are so concerned with the fulfillment of the prophecy of “women consuming their own offspring” (Eikha 4:10), why do we not conduct an equal level of soul-searching when faced with the image of “priest and prophet have been slain in God’s sanctuary” (ibid. 2:20)?
 
            b) The completely opposite approach: God has given man free choice, and He now is—as it were—unable to interfere. “When the powers of destruction are allowed to act, they do not distinguish between the righteous and the wicked” (Bava Kama 60a).
 
            c) A combination of these approaches: The Holocaust represents hester panim, the hiding of God’s face. It is neither a purposeful act on His part, nor is He bound by human freedom of choice, but rather it is a situation whereby God withdrew His hand because of the sins of Am Yisrael. We may ask why God hid His face, despite the fact that He could have saved us, and the answer (according to this approach) is that since modern secularism broke off all contact with God, as described in parashat Vayelekh, this severance became reciprocal. God hid His face as a natural result of our severance of contact with Him—not as a punishment but as a consequence. The Nazis were then able to give free rein to their satanic desires.
 
            However, it may be preferable to leave the problem unresolved— even if it is multiplied six million times—than to accept any of these answers. Not because there are better ones—there are not, and any of these answers may theoretically be correct. We should not reject outright the answer that maintains that we suffered “because of our sins”—who are we to instruct Divine Providence as to how to punish? However, morally we dare not say this, since adopting this answer requires that we see European Jewry as a terribly wicked community, to the extent that it brought the Holocaust upon itself, or alternatively we must adjust our standards and say that such terrible punishments are the appropriate response to very ordinary sins. Yeshayahu was punished for saying, “I dwell amongst a nation of unclean lips” (6:5). For us to make such a serious accusation against the previous generation is certainly more serious than the accusation made by Yeshayahu; who would dare say that there is even some comparison between the victims and the perpetrators? Among the victims were people of the highest spiritual attainments, saints from birth and childhood. On the other hand, if we change our standards of sin and punishment, then we have to see the God of the Thirteen Attributes of Mercy in a completely different light.
 
            The second answer—maintaining that God’s hands were tied, as it were—we must also reject, for this would imply that we deny Him any role in the course of history.
 
            The third answer, that of “hiding His face,” leaves us with a question: Why? Was the situation so dire that we really deserved for God to hide His face from us?
 
            For those of us who are believers, it is preferable to live with the question and with the faith surrounding it rather than to try and grasp at explanations of one kind or another. We cannot nor will we ever be able to provide an adequate explanation for what happened. Someone once said, in response to a question as to whether he believed an explanation would ever be found for the Holocaust, “I hope not.”
 
            A woman once asked my neighbor Leib Rochman, a Holocaust survivor, “Where was God during the Holocaust?” He replied, “He was with us.” That is the only response: “I am with him in distress” (Tehillim 91:15). The question remains, but we are unable to supply an explanation for even smaller details of history’s course because we cannot see the entire picture; how much greater, then, is our inability to explain an event of this magnitude!
 
            We are not judged by our ability to find or create convoluted explanations. Our test lies in not forgetting and in learning lessons for the future.
 
            Firstly, we are obligated to remember, and the remembrance is twofold. The Talmud speaks of acts we perform zekher la- Mikdash, in memory of the Temple, and this involves two dimensions. First, there are mitzvot prescribed in order to recall the Beit Ha-mikdash: shaking the lulav all seven days of Sukkot (Sukka 41a), counting the Omer (Menachot 68a), etc. Second, we have to remember not only the glory and the splendor but also the destruction and desolation (Bava Batra 60b). In our case, too, we have to remember the glorious Judaism that was—not just as historical knowledge, but as part of a personal relationship, with love. We have to remember the vibrant Jewish life that existed there, the Jews who walked with their heads upright in the squalid ghetto and created a rich world within that most difficult socio-political situation. At the same time, we have to remember the personal tragedies, the fearsome destruction, the chaos which befell the community and the individuals. Although there is generally a limit to mourning, namely, twelve months, we nevertheless recount each year in the Zikhronot (Remembrances) of Rosh Ha-shana our communal remembrances, and these are never forgotten.
 
            In addition, we have to strive for a higher level of love for our fellow Jews—not just on the basis of the communal fate of the past, but on the basis of our destiny and our common future.
 
            Thirdly, we have to learn from the poverty and suffering of the past how truly fortunate we are here and now, in the sense indicated by the mishna in Avot (4:1): “Who is wealthy? He who is satisfied with his lot.” Every person is capable of seeing himself as discriminated against or as unfortunate in some respect, but when we encounter genuine suffering it is easier to put everything into its proper perspective and regain our sense of priorities. As part of this, perhaps we need to learn to appreciate little things too, even levels of spirituality which are less than lofty.
 
            Moreover, we have to learn humility when it comes to historical commentary. Someone who cannot provide an answer for what took place during the Holocaust should not be overly eager to provide explanations for current events (even though this is sometimes convenient).
 
            Furthermore, one of the messages of the Holocaust—paradoxical as it may seem—is that of faith. If a person experiences a period of intense difficulty and his faith wavers as a result of his troubles, he has to remember those Jews who lived through the inferno and persevered with perfect, pure faith; people who, in the midst of the hideous events which they experienced, continued to believe and persisted in their scrupulous observance of mitzvot. A person has to remember that each one of us is capable of being an Avraham Avinu—someone who believes, even if he is alone in his belief. Emil Fackenheim once said that to be a believing Jew means to be the last Jew on earth, and still to believe. Dr. Zerach Warhaftig recounted how, when he discovered Rav Yechiel Ya’akov Weinberg (author of Seridei Eish) at the end of the war, the latter asked him, “Are there any other Jews left in the world?” He had believed that he was the last, but nevertheless remained a Torah giant, firm in his faith.
 
            Finally, we must be animated by a sense of mission, a feeling of duty towards God as well as towards those who sacrificed their lives. Those of us who remain on the battlefield after the great decimation of God’s forces have to gird ourselves, take up their vision and carry it forward. The same responsibility they carried is now the lot of a much smaller community, and we therefore have to make much more of an effort. In the past, a person who built himself up was free to consider only himself and his own personal interests. In our generation, we have to see ourselves as part of Kenesset Yisrael, the Congregation of Israel, continuing in the path laid down by our fathers, lifting the baton that was struck from their hands. We are all, in a sense, survivors. We must always keep the interests of the community in mind and do our best to serve it. Moreover, our people’s great and inspiring vision has in no way dimmed, and we must rededicate ourselves to pursuing its realization.
 
            A survivor was once asked, “After the Holocaust you’re still a Jew?” He immediately replied, “What else? Should I then become a gentile?” Let us not become entangled in meaningless questions of how they allowed themselves to be led like sheep to the slaughter, etc. What supreme heroism was demonstrated there! Jews sang on the way to the crematoria, “Joyful are we; how good is our portion, how pleasing our lot!” And it was not only the pious and righteous who proclaimed this.
 
            In addition to devoting rededicated efforts to Kenesset Yisrael and the Torah of Israel, let us also take up the task they never had the opportunity to accomplish: building and developing the Land of Israel. Anyone who emerges from Yad Vashem experiences profound depression—and quite understandably so. But when you emerge and see the hills of Judea and Jerusalem rebuilt, you can take some comfort. We should not attempt to do an “accounting” and say that this is God’s compensation to us for the Holocaust. The State of Israel is not the solution to that problem but rather an opportunity for us to fulfill our mission. It is not an answer but rather a challenge and a destiny, and our responsibility is to work towards its realization!
 

The Secret To Success

Who is the successful person in life? By success I mean in business, relationships, learning or ANYTHING.

The COMMITTED person is the successful person. Why do I have no money while many of my friends are multi-millionaires? Is it because they are smarter of better connected? I don't believe so. It is because they are COMMITTED to earning money while I am not at all [for better or for worse. I am committed to other things to which they are often not...].

Why did your wife marry you? Because she thought that you were COMMITTED to the relationship. Why is your marriage not what it should be [in all likelihood]? PART of the problem is that you are not committed enough to making it work. The other obligations [real or imagined] you have take their toll.

Why are so many people I know almost completely ignorant when it comes to Torah? People even in their 40' 50's and 60's who after all these years still can't properly read a gemara. Yerushalmi and many other basic sources they have never touched and even something so basic as Tanach is for the most part unknown to them. These are people who profess to be religious and believers in the eternal overarching value of Torah study yet on weekends when they have dozens of free hours, the only sefer they open is a siddur for davening and a chumash for krias ha-torah and that's it. They KNOW that Torah is more important and will bear them much more fruit in the present and future than any other plans they have yet they neglect to learn. The answer, once again, is commitment. People are just not committed to achieving stardom in Torah. If they would be, then their lives would undergo a revolution.

People start chavrusas but don't keep to them. People attend a shiur once twice and suddenly they find more pressing things to do. Even in yeshivos, boys switch from shiur to shiur and from chavrusa to chavrusa and even from yeshiva to yeshiva. They never really have a rebbi [even tough they profess to want and need one] because they can't commit to the talmid rebbi relationship [all relationships require commitment, not only marriage].

So sweet friends - if you want to succeed in life then decide what is important to you and commit. Commit to never missing a minyan. Commit to doing chesed on a set basis; to helping people who might not need your help only once but on an ongoing basis. Commit to be there for your wife and children. Decide what you want to learn and commit to learning it no matter what. You will find that the feeling of structure and consistency will be a great boon to your fragile psyche and after an extended period you will be greatly pleased with the results.

Most importantly - you will give nachas ruach to the borei who created you to commit. The gemara in brachos [61a] says that this world was created for complete reshaim and the next world for complete tzadikim. This means that this world was created for those who are completely devoted and committed to this world with no thought of any other world or reward and punishment [complete reshaim] while the next world was created for those who are completely devoted to that place without any regard for the falsehood of this world [complete tzadikim]. The principle is the same; true success [even to evil G-d forbid] requires commitment. Read the biography of ANY great person in ANY field and you will find that without commitment he would never have reached such an elevated plateau.

Let us commit and become great למען השם עמו ותורתו!