I generally don't link to videos of women [for purposes of tzniyus] but I am making an exception. If you choose not to listen or to listen and not look - קדוש יאמר לך. For everyone else and all of the female readers - here is the link to an amazing talk by Rebbetzin Hurwitz.
May we know no pain...
Thanks again to Aviva Orlofsky for sending.