There is a certain [masochistic] pleasure that people get from feeling victimized and personally offended. It gives the ego expression and accentuation. "He hurt ME". "How could she say those terrible words to ME".
Reality check: Nobody [in all likelihood] is out to get you. They are far too busy with themselves to be concerned with you. The reason they might have spoken or acted inappropriately has EVERYTHING to do with them and their issues and zero to do with you.
Put your ego aside and accept people's emotional inadequacies. They are filled with them. We all are and our handicap expresses itself in different ways. For some it is turned inward. Not healthy but at least they are not stepping on the toes of others. Some are cruel and unfeeling even to close family members. It can boggle the mind how one can make a close family member suffer on a consistent basis but it is the unfortunate reality in many many cases. Others are kind to family but not as thoughtful to non-family. In all cases one should not take things personally.
Examples: He didn't not attend my simcha because he is against me but because he is busy with his own things. She didn't forget about the shidduch offer she once mentioned to me because she is mean but because she is busy with her own life.
Don't take things personally - they have nothing to do with you. For most people with whom you come into contact, you are just a means for them towards achieving their ends. Maybe they want your money [like in a store], or your friendship or your admiration or something else but in close to 100 percent of all cases it is about them and not you.
That being said - if you want to grow - try to be about other people. With your time, money, interest, care and anything else you can give them. This will put you in a unique almost extinct class of people.
Try it!!
