Marriage #13

Rav Shalom Aroush wrote a book for men and another for women on Shalom Bayis. PLEASE read his book [I think that they have both been translated into English]. The translator says that he received many positive responses. One man told him "If not for the book I would have shot my wife 7 times. One to kill her and another 6 into her dead body." [Please excuse the violence. I'm just quoting.]

The bottom line of the books: Take personal responsibility to make your marriage work.

My favorite piece of advice [to men]: NEVER EVER criticize your wife. Ever. It will have no effect.

Better.

It WILL have an effect.

It will make her hate you.