How To Give

How does one give?

A mother says "What an amazing chesed I did today!!! I served my family dinner!!"

"And?" I ask.

"That's it! I served them dinner. What a tremendous chesed!!"

EVERY MOTHER SERVES HER FAMILY DINNER!! IT'S THE MOST NATURAL THING IN THE WORLD.

"Viyihiyu aniyim bnei bescha" - Poor people should be members [not "like members" but actual members] of your household [Pirkei Avos]. Giving to the needy should be the most natural thing in the world.

[Of course it IS a great chesed for a mother to serve her family but people don't look at it that way.]