Everybody has a different narrative of life. Healthy people make sure that their narrative is healthy.
I recently described to someone how someone else has a certain good quality in Bein Adam La-chaveiro. His response was "He is a kiss ..." [and then he used a word Bnei Torah don't use].
He has never met this person and has nothing against him. He heard something favorable and his immediate gut reaction was to view it in the most negative of lights. I would NOT want to look at life like that.
