In a shiur tonight [and I thank all the participants and host:)] I read out a line from Rav Kook that is even better when heard in the context of everything else he said - but it took me about an hour to say it all so I won't write it out. Just this line.
Sometimes you are insulted and your feelings have been hurt. You have what to say. You can really sock it to him/her good!!
But you don't.....
Says the Rav:
זאת היא גבורת הקודש של החיים
That is the HOLY POWER of life.
To remain silent.
HOLY POWER:)