One guy, after his fifth marriage said "I'm beginning to think that it might be me".
Remarkable insight:).
Every couple could use therapy.
Every couple.
The more self aware one is, the more he/she realizes how much growth opportunity there is through one's marriage. Most people AREN'T that self aware and go through the motions and don't realize what they are missing out on. People who go to therapy are usually those who are having severe problems. Even if a couple doesn't go, they should still be aware of the issues and be working together on solidifying their union.
When people go to therapy there are a number of possibilities.
A] They both agree that HE is the problem.
B] They both agree that SHE is the problem.
C] They each claim that the other one is the problem.
All wrong.
The TRUTH is that BOTH of them are the source of the solution. In other words, in MOST instances, both contribute to the problems. We are all people, imperfect, fallible and have light years of work to do before we reach perfection. To appreciate and internalize that is to put yourself on the road to growth.