Switzerland is a GORGEOUS country, by all accounts. [I would go there myself if not for the fact that I am a guest in Hashem's country and I feel that it would be insulting to leave for no good reason. That was an "Aliyah minute", sponsored by Nefesh Bi-nefesh. Now back to our reguraly scheduled programming.]
When you get to the airport in Geneva you will be met by stern-faced clerks at passport control and garbage bins. That isn't so pretty.
If a photographer took pictures of the sloping hills and pastoral view and also of the garbage bins and angry people, which would be an accurate refelction of the country?
Both. To get Talmudic for a second: אלו ואלו דברי וכו ... in a sense.
Your spouse is Switzerland. She is beautiful. She also has a side to her that is less beautiful. She is not all bad nor all good. She is a work in progress. So is he. Have patience. Work together. Over time more of the beauty will be revealed and what is less than beautiful will be transformed.
IF you work. HARD. For a man that means learning daily mussar and engaging in introspection to discern what he needs to fix. For a woman it means going to shiurim from time to time and primarily working through her issues [possibly with the help of a close friend or Rebbetzin].
[Based partly on the book האיש מקדש page 102-103]
When you get to the airport in Geneva you will be met by stern-faced clerks at passport control and garbage bins. That isn't so pretty.
If a photographer took pictures of the sloping hills and pastoral view and also of the garbage bins and angry people, which would be an accurate refelction of the country?
Both. To get Talmudic for a second: אלו ואלו דברי וכו ... in a sense.
Your spouse is Switzerland. She is beautiful. She also has a side to her that is less beautiful. She is not all bad nor all good. She is a work in progress. So is he. Have patience. Work together. Over time more of the beauty will be revealed and what is less than beautiful will be transformed.
IF you work. HARD. For a man that means learning daily mussar and engaging in introspection to discern what he needs to fix. For a woman it means going to shiurim from time to time and primarily working through her issues [possibly with the help of a close friend or Rebbetzin].
[Based partly on the book האיש מקדש page 102-103]
