How many interactions do we initiate solely in order to benefit the other party vs. how many interactions we initiate [at least also] for our own benefit?
If we make a cheshbon, we might be surprised by the outcome.
In a similar vein:
How many chavrusos do we have solely to give the other person and not for ourselves at all?
How many shiurim do we ever attend primarily to give the Maggid Shiur kavod even though we are not particularly interested in attending the shiur?
How many people do we text/call/email a greeting ["good shabbos" "good morning"] only to make the other person feel good with nothing in it for us?
How many compliments a day do we give?
How many people do we completely ignore when we pass them on the street b/c simply because we don't know them personally? Is acknowledging people we don't know a value? [Hint - Pirkei Avos 4-15].
Asking for a friend who learns mussar.
