Love Vs. Marriage

A quotable quote for tu b'av: "Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair is a totally different thing. A marriage is a commitment to that which you are. That person is literally your other half. And you and the other are one. A love affair isn’t that. That is a relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable , it’s off. But a marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not married.”


Western Society is infatuated with being "in love" and we are products of this society.

And that - is where SERIOUS problems begin.

The Tikkun - a firm desire to COMMIT unconditionally to another person [preferably one who speaks at least one language that you speak] come heaven or high water. A willingness to look beyond the outer shell of falsehood in order to penetrate to the depths of who this person really is and appreciate his uniqueness.

PS - As I am typing this I am listening to R' Eitan Katz sing about being a yarei shomayim. Dearest friends, listening to R' Eitan's angelic voice [not that I've ever heard an angel sing] and knowing his sweet personality and genuine yiras shomayim makes me want to fear Hashem more [and hear more of his music]. So do me a favor, buy a cd of his for the car and blast it so that it penetrates the depths of your soul that wants nothing more than kirvas Elokim.

That was an unpaid for, unsolicited advertisement:).