Shidduchim And Parnassa

Krias Yam Suf has gone done as the greatest Nes in the annals of history. Chazal tell us that two other things are as hard a feat to accomplish as Krias Yam Suf, shidduchim and parnasa. What is it about these two things that make it so difficult that we compare it to that history making event?

The Pninim Uparparaos Al HaTorah brings from Rav Simcha Bunim of Peshischa that when Bnei Yisroel was trapped with the sea in front of them and the bloodthirsty army of Mitzrayim behind them and no where to move on the right or the left they cried to Hashem to save them. Out of all the plans and prayers they came up with, they never dreamed that the Yam Suf would open and provide them a safe passage. Hashem saved them in a way they didn't daven for. This was a very difficult feat.

Similarly when it comes to shidduchim and parnasa we all map out plans to reach our goals, and we execute our strategy as if we are in charge and it is our brilliant ideas that will bear fruit. In this case since Hashem is not called in for any assistance, He theoretically should sit on the sidelines and let us fend for ourselves and see how far we get. Even if we daven for success, we are knocking on the wrong door. Nevertheless, Hashem in His rachmanus, brings the yeshua from where it is destined to come from, a place where we never dreamed it would.

Oy! If only we believed, if only we would ask for help and would not dictate how it should happen, we'd make Hashem's job so much easier. If we davened for a yeshua without any preconceived notions, splitting the sea would be easy as pie.

[From revach.net]