Today I found out that an old friend recently got married.
At that very moment I realized that he had [unbeknowenst to me] gotten divorced.
So I am conflicted. Should I be happy he is married or sad he got divorced at the same time? Or should I first focus the sadness of his divorce [and doing my usual trying to figure out why it happened which I can never truly know and it is less than none of my business anyway] and then on the joy of his remarriage?
Reminds me of the lady who called a rabbi to ask him to conduct the funeral of her husband. The rabbi said "Didn't your husband die last year?" [He remembered doing that funeral].
"Yes" the lady replied, "but I was remarried since".
"Oh, MAZEL TOOV!!!" Said the rabbi.
