Ratzon - will, is a great thing. Everything we do requires ratzon. The greater the ratzon, the more likely we are to succeed. Even a ratzon which is not actualized has value. The mekubalim teach that a positive ratzon brings good on to the person and the world [and a negative ratzon the opposite...].
The problem starts when we decide that our own personal ratzon is all that matters and thus overrides the ratzon of Hashem. The goal is to align our retzonos with the ratzon of Hashem. If He wants it - then we want it. If He doesn't - then we don't.
פותח את ידיך ומשביע לכל חי רצון - Hashem opens His hand and fulfills the ratzon of everybody. Does he really? Aren't there things that we want but aren't getting?? Well, if our retzonos would be aligned with His, then we would truly have whatever we want. For what we have is what He wants and if we are on the same page, then we have all we want.
That is a HUUUUGE avoda. To stop wanting things He doesn't want us to have. How do we know what He wants? We don't always but we often do. If it against the Torah, He doesn't want it. If He gave us certain parents or siblings or spouse then we have to stop wishing that we had different ones. If this is what He gave us then this is what He wants and what we should want.
It is hard work to accept the Divine will. But once we internalize that He knows what we need in order to reach our tikkun, it is much easier.
[עי' רזי לי י"ח עמ' ד"ש]
