Once in an age God sends to some of us a friend who loves in us, not a false-imagining, an unreal character, but looking through the rubbish of our imperfections, loves in us the Divine ideal of our nature,--loves, not the man that we are, but the angel that we may be.”
Harriet Beecher Stowe
Interesting. When people get married they are usually not marrying a real person. They are marrying their image of who that person is. In other words - an imaginary person. After being married and getting to know the person the challenge presents itself - can he love her as she is for who she is??
Not pashut!
A more spiritual approach is to love more than who the person is but who the person may become. This is also the way we should relate to children. I don't just love the 8 year old standing before me but a person with limitless Divine potential who one day may light up all of the worlds!!