Infantile love follows the principle: "I love because I am loved."
Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved because I love."
Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."
Mature love says: "I need you because I love you."
Erich Fromm
Such an attitude empowers a person and enables him to be in control of his life and love. Many people are starving for affection but aren't receiving any because they are following the model of infantile and immature love. A change in attitude will reap both temporal and eternal benefits.