We all want to be understood.
My advice: Focus not on being understood but on understanding others.
Benefits:
1] You are doing a great chesed for others by understanding and empathizing with them [a $250 dollar per 45 min. value at the local shrink].
2] Many people lack the emotional intelligence to understand you so you will often be frustrated.
3] You will be like Hashem. He spends His time "thinking" abt. others.
