Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Shabbos Or Taharas Hamishpacha? What Do You Think??

לרפואת טובה חנה בת מרים בתוך שח"י!!

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Rav Elyashiv ztz"l was asked by Rav Shteinman Shlita what a couple who is in the teshuva process should be told to keep first - Shabbos or Taharas Hamishpacha. 

I would answer - Shabbos! 

  • Firstly, a practical reason: Once they taste Shabbos they will want to remain religious. I think that Shabbos is much more of a "draw" than Taharas Hamishpacha.

Two purely halachic reasons:

  • If they don't keep Shabbos they can do hundreds of issurim every Shabbos, many more than they would do if they don't keep Taharas Hamishpacha.

  •  Shabbos is a חיוב סקילה while Niddah is not as stringent - "only" a kares but no מיתת בית דין. 
Also, look at how many times Shabbos is mentioned in the Torah - many more times than איסור נדה. And one who is מחלל שבת has a דין גוי unlike a בועל נדה. 

Here is what Rav Elyashiv ztz"l answered: