By Rabbi A.L. Scheinbaum
At times, it takes “patience” for Hashem’s plan to manifest itself. A chasid of the Lev Simchah, zt”l, asked the Rebbe (through one of his gabbaim, aides), about a certain shidduch, match, for his daughter (this is the prevalent custom among chassidim, especially Gur. (The family will not go further unless the Rebbe responds affirmatively.)
The Lev Simcha The Pnei Menachem
The Lev Simchah did not respond affirmatively (nor did he say, “No”), which left the petitioner to use his common sense. The average chasid will not go further unless the answer is positive. Undeterred, the petitioner asked a mekubal, a holy scholar who was steeped in studying kabbalah, for his opinion concerning the shidduch. The mekubal’s answer was “Yes.”
The petitioner was now in a serious quandary. What should he do? The chasid went to the Pnei Menachem, zt”l (the Lev Simchah’s brother and next Rebbe), “I went to the Rebbe,” he began. “He did not give me a clear answer. I left him in a quandary concerning what I should do. I spoke to a mekubal who told me to go forward with the shidduch. What should I do?”
The Pnei Menachem replied, “You should know that a mekubal has powerful insight, but he only sees what is good now. He is unable to see if this shidduch will be good in twenty years or through the next generation (what type of children and grandchildren will descend from them).
The Rebbe (and all Rebbes) have the ability to see generations later, even what is best for each neshamah, based upon its previous gilgul (transmigatory soul, earlier “version” of himself).
The Pnei Menachem continued, “A chasid once came to my father, the Imrei Emes, zl, and petitioned him for a blessing which would provide him with monetary wealth. The Rebbe demurred. The man returned a number of times, until the Imrei Emes assented and blessed him with wealth. The blessing came true, and the man became very wealthy.
“This chasid had one son, a brilliant, talented, pleasant looking boy, who was a budding Torah scholar. He would be a “top catch” when the time for him to marry came around. Shortly before he reached marriageable age, he was in a tragic accident, which cost him his leg. He was, sadly, no longer at the top of the shadchanim’s list. The father’s demands for a suitable wife for his son were no longer “demanding.”
“In the end, he married a lovely girl, who happened to be the tailor’s daughter. Shortly before the wedding, the man went in to speak with the Imrei Emes and ask for a brachah for the young couple.
“The Rebbe said to the father, “It was Heavenly ordained that your son should wed this girl. Years ago, it would have been quite a suitable shidduch for you, since you were not affluent, and neither was the tailor. When you besieged me time and again to grant you a blessing for wealth, however, this shidduch, which Heaven had decided was best for your son, became below your dignity, in light of your newly acquired financial status.
“As a result, your son had to undergo a painful experience which left him an amputee. Now you are open to accepting the shidduch that was meant for your son from the very beginning. Now you understand that one does not “push” Hashem. If the Almighty is
not forthcoming with His blessing, He has a good reason for it.
Reprinted from the Parshas Chaya Sarah 5777 email of Peninim on the Torah.