Why Our Problems Bother Us

Recently, as I have been dealing with some stressful circumstances in life the following thought kept occurring to me. The only reason a person is bothered by a problem is because he doesn't have brain cancer. If he would have brain cancer the problem wouldn't bother him anymore. All he would care about is being healed from the illness.

This is not the typical "It could be worse" approach. It is more. All of our problems are subjective and only bother us to the extent that we allow them to. If we would change our perspective they would cease instantaneously to be problems.

Example: A person misses his train and the next one is not for an hour. This could be distressing. So he sits down feeling distress and reaches for his phone to call home and tell his wife to keep dinner on the stove. He reaches into his pocket and it is .... empty. He JUST TOOK OUT 5000 DOLLARS IN CASH. Gone. He also had a brand new bracelet he bought for his wife for 7,345 dollars. Gone. And of course the iPhone is gone, too. Hmmmmmm. Does he care about the hour wait anymore?? He would wait all day if it would mean that he would retrieve his possessions. If missing the train was an objective problem he would care regardless of the circumstances.

So all of our problems are in our mind. Your mind, we recently quoted, can make a heaven a hell and a hell a heaven.

Make your life into a heaven:-).

Good Shabbos sweetest friends. I will be in Manhattan Ir Hakodesh [hopefully it'll be Ir Hakodesh when I am done with it] spending Shabbos enjoying my company. And one special guest I will be hosting - Shabbos Malka!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Being Jewish is the BESTTTTT!