"It can be hard not to lash out when everything feels overwhelming. But anger, when used as discipline, doesn’t build understanding — it builds fear, shame, and resentment.
Children don’t walk away from explosive moments thinking, “I’ve learned to do better.”
They walk away thinking, “I must be bad. I must be unlovable when I struggle.”
And over time, they absorb that anger.
At first, they turn it inward — blaming themselves, doubting their worth. And later, they turn it outward — toward the very people they once longed to feel safe with.
That becomes the voice they carry — in their relationships, their setbacks, their self-worth.
We’re not meant to be perfect. But we are meant to be mindful of the imprints we leave.
Correction can be firm and kind. Boundaries can be held without rage. Lessons can be taught without breaking their spirit.
Our anger might silence them in the moment — but presence, patience, and connection?
That’s what teaches them how to live, and love, and try again."
