"It doesn’t always look like begging.
Sometimes it looks like trying harder. Being agreeable.
Staying small. Hoping that if you get it right — stay quiet enough, helpful enough —you’ll finally be seen.
But let’s be clear:
If someone makes ANYONE feel like they have to earn time, attention, or love, what that person receives in return will never be time, attention, or love.
It will be control.
Approval tied to performance.
Presence tied to obedience.
And it will shape them — in ways many of us now know far too well.
It will shape them into adults who mistake emotional crumbs for connection.
Who chase the unavallable.
Who override their needs in the name of being chosen.
So teach your children now — that true consideration is given freely.
It’s not earned, chased, or bargained for.
That love never makes you disappear to be worthy of it.
Teach them, please, before the world teaches them otherwise."
