I recently saw a letter to the editor from a single girl who [you could see the pain she is experiencing in her words] essentially tells married people not to complain about her problems because she WISHES that she had their problems.
I don't know her but like many single she is having a rough time. But a message to her and the rest of the world. You don't want anyone else's problems. Married people suffer in ways that single people don't suffer. Take someone with a child with special needs. There entire life revolves around this one child. It exhausts them not only physically but exhausts their funds as well and they live in perpetual, forever deepening, debt. If they are lucky then they get a break in the summer when their child goes to HASC but that is it. A single person has a life [we hope]. He or she should not be jealous.
Then there are families with kids who are off the derech. There is often drugs, alcohol, mental health issues etc. etc. The parents go to sleep at night not knowing where there child is and what they may be smoking at that moment. Some of these kids "come out of the closet" causing the parents tremendous anguish and embarrassment. A single person doesn't have to deal with this.
Then there are married people who are miserable in their marriage and are basically locked in for life. Either they stay with the person and remain miserable or get divorced and lose loads of money [often they can't get remarried because they can't afford it] and also cause their children much anguish, often leaving emotional scars. Sometimes STAYING in the marriage leaves emotional scars in the children. A single person can hope to get married and live happily ever after.
These are just examples. The point is that you NEVER know what other people are going through. EVERY has their personal demons, pain, disappointments, frustrations etc. etc. The healthiest attitude is to thank Hashem for what you have. Thank Hashem for what you lack. And just keep thanking Hashem for every breath you take - and keep davening. The point of davening is not to get what you want [Hashem knows what you want without you telling Him] but to connect with your Loving Father. It is a short trip on this earth. Make the best of it.
