Friday, March 8, 2024

Finding Meaning In The Ordinary

Rabbi Norman Lamm

Jewish Center 

February 23,1963

Shevat 29, 5723

Parshas Shkalim 

The prolonged New York City newspaper strike has adversely affected not only the economy of

our community, but also the democratic process which requires an informed citizenry

intelligently to decide upon its course. It constitutes no less than a national disgrace.

Yet, as with everything else, we must be able to see the silver lining about the cloud.

There is a redeeming feature to this otherwise intolerable state of affairs. We moderns have an

insatiable appetite for constant stimulation by dramatic, world-shaking events. Our emotions

feed on headlines, and our minds like to be jarred by exciting news of colossal proportions. Now,

for several weeks, we have learned that life can be quite interesting even without these external

stimuli. We have learned to fall back upon our own inner resources, without being incessantly

pricked and shocked by big threats, terrible scandals, imminent attacks which usually do not

materialize. We actually can get along without those big headlines which, in but a few hours, are

valueless, surpassed by newer “extras” that shriek at us from the newsstands. Life, we have

discovered, has its own justification in the little things that occur to us every day.

This same idea is contained, in somewhat different form, in a Midrash quite appropriate

for the Sabbath on which we read of the shekalim, Moshe collected from the Children of Israel

for the purpose of the construction and maintenance of the Tabernacle. The Midrash relates

(Yalkut, Pekudei) that when Moshe completed the building of the Tabernacle, he turned to the

Israelites and said, now I shall give you a report of the shekalim you gave me. When Moshe

completed his accounting, however, he discovered to his dismay that his books did not balance.

Tradition records with fine precision that the deficit was exactly 1,775 shekalim. Moshe was

deeply concerned by this discrepancy. He was distressed and perplexed. Now, he thought, Yisrael

motz’in yedehem lomar Mosheh natlan – the Israelites will have reason to say that Moses took

the money, that he dipped his hand into the till and helped himself to communal funds. It would 

not have been the first completely unfounded suspicion or accusation against Moshe, who was by

no means a popular leader. But then, he’ir Ha-Kadosh barukh Hu et enav ve’raah otam asuyim

vavim la-amudim. The Lord illuminated his eyes, and he realized that he had honestly and

honorably spent the missing shekalim on the vavim or hooks which kept the Tabernacle together;

for the Tabernacle was a portable, prefabricated Temple, and the parts were connected to each

other by means of these small metal hooks. When Moshe told this to the Israelites they were appeased and satisfied that they had undertaken the whole

project of the building of the Tabernacle.

What is the essence and the moral of this story? It is that even a Moshe can overlook the

plain, the simple, the unassuming. Yet there can be no inner or communal peace,

unless we account for that which the vavim symbolize: that which is vital and necessary, but not

always glamorous and exciting. Even a Moses can sometimes forget that life is made not by the

headlines, but by the stuff that usually does not even appear in the back pages of the newspapers.

Is that not true of all of life? A career or profession is a success or failure not because of

the rare triumphs or glaring disappointments that come forcibly to public attention, but because

of day to day conduct and gradual progress. In fact, the big achievements are usually no more

than the result of long, patient plodding. This is no less true of domestic life. The happiness or

sorrow of husband and wife are mostly not the result of the big windfalls or the great tragedies,

as much as what we do with the countless little irritations or minor opportunities and

satisfactions that come our way.

It is so with all human relations. The test of loyalty comes not in the dramatic moments,

but in the dull years; not in how you handle the crisis of a lifetime, but in how you handle

yourself in a lifetime of crisis; not in the singular moments, when heroism is expected of you, but 

in the endless hours when nothing is expected of you because no one seems to care very much. It

is not on the peaks of joy or in the valleys of grief, but on the plateaus that roll on endlessly, day

by day, that the business of living is carried on; it is there that a man can gather for himself hope,

or that the bones of his destiny can be left to parch in the merciless glare of despair. Unless we

can learn to see the thrilling in the ordinary and the exciting in the routine, the thrilling and the

exciting soon appear to us quite ordinary and routine. If we enter into the ledger of life only the

sensational, the scintillating, the breathtaking, then, like Moses, we shall discover a deficit in our

accounts, and find that the books of life do not balance.

I do not deny that life requires high points and low ones, excitement and pageantry, in

order to relieve the dullness and monotony which can become the death of the spirit. But it is a

sign of immaturity to live only for the heroic and the histrionic and the headlined, as if life were

a show that must constantly entertain us, as if we agreed with Shakespeare that “all the world’s a

stage, and all the men and women merely players”; for then we must also agree with the bard

that “life... is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.”

Part of what troubles our Jewish life in America is our tendency to accept as valid that

dubious thesis that it is only the dramatic and extraordinary that counts. As a result, the typical

program for synagogue courses for adults is something built around birth, Bar Mitzvah,

marriage, and death – as if Judaism had little to say about the prosaic events that come in

between. We have taken to heart the brilliant dictum of Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch that the

“catechism of the Jew is his calendar” – and we have conveniently forgotten that the calendar has

365 days, not just a dozen fasts and feasts. But this string of colorful holidays is not yet Judaism.

Our authentic faith is expressed through Halakhah, by means of which our sublime ideals are put 

into practice in the everyday life of the individual, and the judgment of Torah permeates every

aspect of the human enterprise.

Perhaps most representative of the vavim, the significant but unspectacular hooks, is

education, especially Jewish education. Chinuch, let it be admitted, is at best a dull undertaking –

even with the latest techniques of programmed instruction. You cannot “show results” in

education as you can in other fields. Progress is slow and requires patience. Yet without it,

nothing else is very meaningful.

The Tabernacle has been compared, in the Jewish Tradition, to Knesset Yisrael, the

Congregation of Israel. Indeed, all parts of the Tabernacle symbolize the various agencies that

constitute the Jewish community. There were the yeriot or curtains which keep the hostile

draughts from penetrating within: these are the “defense” organizations that seek to protect us

against the anti-Semites. The roof symbolizes the social service agencies which offer shelter and

succor to the poor, the lonely, and the homeless. There is the mizbeah or altar – on which we

offered up as sacrifices the flower of our youth for the State of Israel. There is the Ark, symbol of

the synagogue. And there are the vavim, the hooks – the sign of Jewish education. How

unattractive these functional little objects are compared with all the rest! Yet – take these

“hooks” away and all else collapses like a house of cards! Perhaps that is why we are always

making appeals for the yeshivot – because regular Torah study is unappealing to a generation

accustomed to dramatic stimulation, to shocking need, to pitched battles. Jewish education can

offer no moving pictures of a Sinai battle or a new pipeline to the Negev, no gripping story of a

forlorn and hungry orphan, no stirring photo of the aged and sick in need of a hospital.

Indeed, sometimes educators and sponsors of Jewish schools begin to feel the same

concern Moses did: perhaps we are wrong. With all these legitimate requests and needs pressed 

on our fellow Jews, do we have the right to agitate for support for Jewish education? Maybe we

are mistaken in siphoning away funds for something so prosaic.

At such moments God illuminates our eyes too, and we behold those vavim la-amudim,

the hooks which connected the pillars with all else. Then we draw inspiration and courage and

we realize that if there is no Jewish education, there can be nothing else. Fail to educate our

youth today, and in fifty years the American Jew will have no feeling at all left for the State of

Israel; he will be totally unimpressed with the U.J.A. Stop teaching our youth, and the hoary

Jewish tradition of Tzedakah must come to an end – even as, unfortunately, the Jewish tradition

of sobriety and modesty has begun to ebb where Torah living has been abandoned. Without

hinukh there will be no Jewish heart to which a Federation will be able to appeal. Unless we

teach Torah to our young and old, there can be no synagogues worthy of the name. And as for

the defense agencies – if there will not be increased and more extensive Jewish education,

supported by the Jewish community, there will sooner or later be no Jews left to defend against

the anti-Semites! Let the federations in the various communities throughout the country, those

who have refused to support their day schools, remember that well. Only by considering the

vavim can there be a thriving Jewish community: nitpietu Yisrael al she’asu et ha-mishkan.

It is a worthwhile lesson to take home with us from today’s reading of the portion of

Shekalim: If sometimes we feel that the ledger of life shows a deficit we cannot account for; if

the books of our life do not balance, and the expenditures of effort and emotion are not

compensated for by an income of joy and peace and satisfaction – it may be because we have

been overlooking the obvious and the routine, and paying a bit too much attention to the

sensational and the dramatic which, in the long run, often prove ephemeral and transient.


Let us remember that, as we say every morning, we are and can be happy: ashrenu mah

tov helkenu, mah na'im goralenu, mah yafah yerushasenu. How happy are we that we have a

faith which teaches such great and good ideals, inspires us to the martyrdom of kiddush ha-Shem,

offers us beautiful and dramatic ceremonies like a Seder or Neilah. But happier still are we that

all of life is holy for us: ashrenu she’anahnu mashkimim u-maarivim v’omrim paamayim be-khol

yom, shema Yisrael... we are doubly happy that we can recite every day the words of the Shema,

and bring God into every aspect of life.

Life may seem dull – but it need not be so. Life can be a poem. And the poem of a man’s

life is not written all at once, in a sudden frenzy of inspiration. It is carefully composed of the

little verses contributed by every day nobly lived; by the rhyme of the Shabbos concluding the

stanza of every week; by the rhythm of a consistent aspiration for a life made beautiful by Torah.

Then indeed – ashrenu, happy are we. And on this day that we welcome the happy month of

Adar, may we be happy – we, our families, all Israel, and all the world.