Monday, June 12, 2017

Honesty - Such A Lonely Word



"Honesty" by Billy Joel 


If you search for tenderness

It isn't hard to find
You can have the love you need to live
But if you look for truthfulness
You might just as well be blind
It always seems to be so hard to give

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you

I can always find someone
To say they sympathize
If I wear my heart out on my sleeve
But I don't want some pretty face
To tell me pretty lies
All I want is someone to believe

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you

.....
I can find a friend
I can have security
Until the bitter end
Anyone can comfort me
With promises again
I know, I know

When I'm deep inside of me
Don't be too concerned
I won't ask for nothin' while I'm gone
But when I want sincerity
Tell me where else can I turn
Cause you're the one that I depend upon

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
but mostly what I need from you



People are all over Trump for being a liar. He accuses others of lying but he is no less guilty. 

Case in point: He promised to move the American Embassy from Tel Aviv to Yerushalayim and then reneged. In other words - he lied. He made a promise that he neglected to fulfill.

But why rank on Trump? What about everybody else?

He is an article on peoples proclivities to lie:

There are two things you can say for sure about human beings: our opposable thumbs make us great at using tools, and we are all big, fat liars. By age four, 90% of children have grasped the concept of lying, and it just gets worse from there.

Just how bad is it? According to a 2002 study conducted by the University of Massachusetts, 60% of adults can’t have a ten minute conversation without lying at least once. But even that number makes it sound better than it really is; those people in the study who did lie actually told an average of 3 lies during their brief chat. And I know you’re sitting there right now insisting you would be part of the 40% that didn’t lie. That’s what the liars in the study thought, too. When they watched the taped conversations back, they were shocked at how many fibs they had told.

We lie to everyone. Our parents get the worst of it, according to The Day America Told the Truth, with 86% of us lying to them regularly, followed by friends (75%), siblings (73%), and spouses (69%). But in general we lie about things that aren’t important, little things that we think will make us look better or more likeable. In a survey by a British film rental company, 30% of respondents had lied about seeing The Godfather.

I’ll admit that I am part of that 30%. The Godfather is a classic film, so you assume everyone has seen it. Since we want to fit in, we tell a little white lie. This in turn makes others think everyone else has seen the film and before you know it 3 out of every ten people are trying to carry on a conversation about the classic armed only with the knowledge that Marlon Brando was going to make someone an offer they couldn’t refuse.

Sometimes we do lie about things that matter. According to one estimate, 40% of people lie on their resumes [Forbes Magazine 5/23 2006]. While that’s something for employers to be wary of, it’s worse if you are part of the 30% of internet users looking for love on a dating site. According to a study by Scientific American, a whopping 90% of people looking for a date online lie in their profile. The biggest fib told by women is an obvious one; on average ladies claim to weigh eight and a half pounds less than they actually do. Men, on the other hand, try to use their profile to convince potential partners that they are taller, richer, and/or better educated than they actually are.

But before you vow never to trust anyone again, here’s some food for thought: A study by the University of Toronto found that it is actually the most trusting people who are best able to tell when they are being lied to.

I have witnessed people lying on countless occasions. It is distressing to say the least - but so is the nature of man. Chazal say that a סתם גוי is a שקרן as the pasuk says אשר פיהם דיבר שווא וימינם ימין שקר [See Bava Basra 55a]. Many Jews are no better. 

So instead of railing against the President for being a liar [which of course he is] it would be more beneficial for every person to ask him or her self how often we twist or bend the truth - or flat out lie.