I have a friend who would "misbehave" when he was a young child, maybe even a toddler. His mother couldn't deal with him, so she locked him in a room [馃槻馃槻]. When she opened the door, the child felt so desperate that the one person who was supposed to protect and nurture him instead bullied him, that he bit her [馃槻馃槻]. What was her reaction? He was a little child, not responsible by any metric for his actions. In Talmudic terminology - definitely not a 讘专 讚注转.
Healthy reaction: Understanding what is making the child so filled with DESPERATION that he would act in such a way [and also calmy teaching the child if possible and if the child could understand to react in other ways].
What did she do?
She hit him. [馃槻馃槻]. SO THERE! Look who's boss!!
Fast forward decades. He - is a father and grandfather. She - is still emotionally abusive and controlling towards him.
Just heartbreaking to think of this child's suffering. I don't know what the effects were on this person's soul but it is inconceivable that there aren't deep scars.
Huge Mussar Haskel: If you are a parent, or spouse for that matter, with deep emotional issues, it is an absolute moral requirement to get help in order not to cause suffering to those around you.
