1. Wasting Time Feeling Sorry For Oneself
Feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t get you anywhere in life, it disconnects you from reality and you are in your own little world telling yourself how the world is conspiring against you. It rewires your mind into a victim mindset. The major setback with this mindset is that your focus will be directed to the problems & failures, which will reinforce more feelings of self-pity.
Your life & your mental health will be a mess when you operate with a victim mindset. We can’t improve our life’s situation by feeling sorry for ourselves instead we may worsen it to a point where there is no turning back.
Actionable Insights: Instead of pitying ourselves for what we lost, we can choose to feel grateful for what we have. Whenever faced with a problem or failure, instead of wasting your time by feeling sorry for yourself, choose a form of action that you can do, it doesn’t matter how big or small it is just take the first step toward the solution.
2. Expecting Immediate Results
Nothing in life worth achieving comes easy. You have to take the hard road to bring sustainable & meaningful results. In the world of social media and instant deliveries. Everyone on the internet will make you feel that they are living their best life, a world of no insecurities, no vulnerabilities, luxury vacations, and unlimited success all of that without even working for it. Well, News Flash!! Life on social media isn’t real.
People on the internet have mastered the art of hiding anything that’s real. But the problem is we go around seeing their highlight reels (Their best moments) and mistake it as their real life. The overnight success stories of young entrepreneurs & influencers are floating all over the internet. These types of stories fuel our desire to get immediate results and fuck up our mental health.
Despite the stories about immediate results and overnight successes, real success is rarely instant. The stories are glamorized leaving out important details about their struggle and how they achieved it. But we believe what we see and rarely care about what’s under the carpet. And when we don’t see similar results in our life we feel inadequate & incompetent.
2. Expecting Immediate Results
Nothing in life worth achieving comes easy. You have to take the hard road to bring sustainable & meaningful results. In the world of social media and instant deliveries. Everyone on the internet will make you feel that they are living their best life, a world of no insecurities, no vulnerabilities, luxury vacations, and unlimited success all of that without even working for it. Well, News Flash!! Life on social media isn’t real.
People on the internet have mastered the art of hiding anything that’s real. But the problem is we go around seeing their highlight reels (Their best moments) and mistake it as their real life. The overnight success stories of young entrepreneurs & influencers are floating all over the internet. These types of stories fuel our desire to get immediate results and fuck up our mental health.
Despite the stories about immediate results and overnight successes, real success is rarely instant. The stories are glamorized leaving out important details about their struggle and how they achieved it. But we believe what we see and rarely care about what’s under the carpet. And when we don’t see similar results in our life we feel inadequate & incompetent.
Actionable Insights: Create Realistic Expectations, it takes time, effort, money, and the right belief system to build something that lasts. Set a realistic time frame in which you’ll measure your initial results. If your action isn’t getting instant results or isn’t visible, it doesn’t mean that what you’re doing isn’t working. Progress toward your goal will rarely be in a straight line. Things will go worse before they get better. Aim big but achieve it through setting smaller targets along the way.
3. Resenting Other People’s Success
Our resentment comes from our deep-rooted insecurities, our own failures in life, and sometimes from our deeply seated aspirations as well. When we see someone succeeding at something we secretly wanted. We feel envy. It may not be visible at first, but it is damaging our mental health. Resentment and envy usually remain concealed.
Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.
It is easy to resent someone when you don’t know what you want for yourself. You will constantly be indulging in comparing yourself with others rather than focusing on your own goals in life. You’ll more likely to damage your relationship with that person as it is very hard to maintain a healthy relationship with someone you secretly despise. Your jealousy will find its way to the surface somehow.
You’ll never be content with what you have in life and will likely overlook your special skills and talents.
3. Resenting Other People’s Success
Our resentment comes from our deep-rooted insecurities, our own failures in life, and sometimes from our deeply seated aspirations as well. When we see someone succeeding at something we secretly wanted. We feel envy. It may not be visible at first, but it is damaging our mental health. Resentment and envy usually remain concealed.
Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.
It is easy to resent someone when you don’t know what you want for yourself. You will constantly be indulging in comparing yourself with others rather than focusing on your own goals in life. You’ll more likely to damage your relationship with that person as it is very hard to maintain a healthy relationship with someone you secretly despise. Your jealousy will find its way to the surface somehow.
You’ll never be content with what you have in life and will likely overlook your special skills and talents.
Actionable Insights: Focus on cooperation rather than comparing. There will always be someone bigger, better, wealthier, talented, or happier than you.
Even when you reach the top you will still somehow find someone who is better than you in some aspect of life. Instead of competing with them, as seeing them as your competitors. See them as your teachers & learn from them. Collaborate with them to reach new heights.
Even when you reach the top you will still somehow find someone who is better than you in some aspect of life. Instead of competing with them, as seeing them as your competitors. See them as your teachers & learn from them. Collaborate with them to reach new heights.
Change your mindset, Success is a positive sum game, if someone else is successful it doesn’t imply that you can’t be successful. There is a lot of it for everyone.
4. Focusing Too Much On The Things You Can’t Control
The world is divided into two different things, the ones we have control over and the ones we have no control over what’s so ever. But we live our life fretting, getting stressed, fearing, worrying, and yelling over the things or situations or people that we can’t control.
It feels safe to have everything under control, the world seems less scary and more predictable when we have things under control. Secretly we are craving for a life of certainty. But no matter how much we try life will always be uncertain & unpredictable.
We also must realize the kind of torture we put ourselves into when we hold on to or try to control everything. It brings immense mental stress.
When we learn to let go of the things/people/circumstances we can’t control we are freeing up our time and energy for the things we can actually control and this can help us accomplice some incredible things in life.
Actionable Insights: Remind yourself that there are a lot of things that you can’t control. Whenever you feel stressed or overwhelmed by a situation in life ask yourself. Is there anything under my control?
Identify Your Fears, When you catch yourself trying to control something that you can’t, ask yourself, What I am so afraid of? Do you worry that someone else is going to make a bad choice? Acknowledge your fears and try to understand them. It will help you recognize what is and what isn’t under your control.
