Tonight is my 29th anniversary. Coincidentally - my wife's as well [same day EXACTLY!!!]. Hashem has been good to me [and us] in countless ways.
THANK YOU HASHEM!!!!!!!馃槉馃槉馃槉
One bracha is how much I have learned from marriage and raising children! I have so much to share. But this time - one lesson.
My present wife is my second wife. She has the same name as my first wife, looks exactly like my first wife and has the same parents and children as my first wife. She actually thinks that she IS my first wife 馃ぃ馃ぃ馃ぃ.
But no.
My first wife was the girl I thought I was marrying. My second wife is the girl to whom I am actually married.
Mussar Haskel: Your spouse is like a sugya in the Gemara. You have to "learn up" the sugya really well in order to properly understand it. You have to notice subtleties and you have to be able to distinguish between what is primary and what is secondary. You have to think about it a lot. You have to be ready to modify previous understandings. And like any real Lamdan [in the Brisker heritage] - you have to have a "mehalech", one overarching approach, to explain everything. Such that everything fits into the cohesive unit that is your wife.
Then, after all is said, done and learned, you have to remember that we can never fully know anyone - even ourselves.
讗转 讛讗讜驻讬 讛注爪诪讬 讗讬 讗驻砖专 诇砖讜诐 讗讚诐 诇讚注转, 讗驻讬诇讜 砖诇 注爪诪讜, 讜拽诇 讜讞讜诪专 砖诇 讝讜诇转讜, 诇讗 砖诇 讬讞讬讚, 讜拽诇 讜讞讜诪专 砖诇 讗讜诪讛. 讗谞讜 讛讜诇讻讬诐 住讘讬讘 诇讛诪专讻讝 砖诇 讛讬讚讬注讛, 注住讜拽讬诐 讗谞讜 讘讛砖注专讜转 讜讘讗讜诪讚谞讜转, 诇讻讜讬谉 注诇 驻讬 讛诪注砖讬诐 讛讙诇讜讬诐, 砖讙诐 谞住转专讬诐 讘专讜讘诐 诪诪谞讜, 讜讘讬讞讜讚 住讬讘讜转讬讛诐 讛诪住讜讘讻讜转, 讜注诇 驻讬 转注讜讚讜转 讻讗诇讜 诪讚讘专讬诐 讗谞讜 注诇 讚讘专 讗讜驻讬 诪讬讜讞讚 讜谞砖诪讛 诪讜讘讚诇讛. 诪讜讻专讞讬诐 讗谞讜 诇讛讞诇讬讟, 砖讬讚讬注转谞讜 讘讝讛 转诇讜讬讛 讛讬讗 注诇 讘诇讬诪讛, 讜讛诪砖驻讟 诇讗诇讛讬诐 [讙' 砖谞"讘].
