"Some lessons have to be experienced to be learned."
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"A valuable skill in life is to be larger than the situation.
When you're feeling stressed or rattled, the situation is consuming you. It feels bigger and more important than it needs to be. This is when your emotions are likely to get the best of you.
But when you are larger than the situation, you can mentally "step outside and above it." Yes, there are problems to be solved. Yes, you need to take action. But the chaos is happening externally and you are still in the driver's seat internally. You're in control of the moment, the moment is not in control of you."
Don't tell Hashem how big your problems are. Tell your problems how big Hashem is.
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Explore life from a position of power.
When you believe, "Even if I stay single, I'll still have a great life" ... then you are in a much better position to enter a relationship.
When you believe, "Even if I don't get into this school, I'll still have a great life" ... then you are in a much better position to apply.
When you believe, "Even if I don't succeed with this business, I'll still have a great life" ... then you are in a much better position to give it a try.
Sure, you may want the relationship to work or the business to be a success—and you should give it your best effort—but also realize that if it doesn't work out, you'll be fine. There are many ways to live a great life."
