There are a lot of people out there promising you that if you join their program [and pay a lot of money...] - you will be transformed! Your spouse and children won't recognize you!! You will do much better at work etc. etc. A NEW YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe.
Maybe not.
But one thing is DEFINITE! You don't HAVE to join a *program* to transform yourself. There are plenty of FANTASTIC mussar sfarim that - if studied properly and with diligence - can help transform you [if you work hard]. These people are not more wise and knowledgeable than, for example, Rav Shlomo Volbe. Go through Alei Shor and follow his [FREE!!!] program. Make Kabbalos and keep them and watch your life change. Read up on the latest findings in what makes man click. There is a TON of research that can help you grow and it is all accessible with the little machine in your hand.
And - it might well be worthwhile to go into therapy. Until you make your subconscious conscious - you won't change [that is Carl Jung and li-havdil Rav Yisroel Salanter].
And daven a LOT for סייעתא דשמיא.
Just making personal growth a priority already puts you ahead of the game.
