He is the ONLY person I feel really understands me. We connect in the deepest way, emotionally and spiritually. He loves me with all of his heart. He would do anything for me. I enjoy his sense of humor, his insights into life and Torah, his attunement to the nuances of the human psyche, his desire to seek truth and many of his other qualities. He also has many faults which really annoy me but I am accepting because I love him so much and love overcomes all faults [האהבה מכסה על כל פשעים]. He loves my children like his own and I feel likewise about his. I could share with him my deepest secrets and I know that he would never tell anyone. What I share with him is safe. I can't say that about everyone I know. I know that our relationship will continue forever. So many other people I know just stopped returning phone calls and emails but he would never do that to me. We really have an eternal covenant. All in all - I love him.
Who is this guy?????
MEEEEEEE!!!!!!
Sweetest friends!! Your BEST friend should be you! You should learn [if you haven't already] to ENJOY yourself, to enjoy your company. Take pleasure in solitude. This doesn't preclude you from having friends but the primary relationship should be with YOU. You is your neshama which is a חלק אלוה ממעל - a piece of G-d כביכול. Don't wait for other people to compliment you - compliment yourself. "Moishe, that's a really nice tie." "Elke, that's a beautiful dress. You look great today." Don't wait for others to appreciate you, appreciate yourself. Would you want to be a beggar? Of course not! Many of us are EMOTIONAL BEGGARS, waiting for others to notice us. That's a sad, frustrating existence.
ויותר יעקב לבדו ויאבק איש עמו, (דברים לג) אין כאל ישורון רוכב שמים בעזרך, ר' ברכיה בשם ר' סימון אמר: אין כאל, ומי כאל ישורון - ישראל סבא, מה הקב"ה כתוב בו (ישעיה ב): ונשגב ה' לבדו, אף יעקב - ויותר יעקב לבדו
Yaakov is like Hashem. Yaakov was לבדו alone, so too Hashem is alone. At the end of days we will "see" Hashem "alone". If you want to emulate Hashem you need to develop the middah of לבדו.
