Life is a journey and it is full of surprises, experiences and disappointments among other things.
We all meet people daily and some will choose to stay in your life while others will walk away due to their own reasons which we cannot stop or control.
The most important people in your life can become strangers overnight. And total strangers can become the most important people in your life overnight.
This process hurts, but if accepted, it serves to improve the quality and suitability of the people in your life.
It is strange and inexplicable. A person you were very good friends with will just drop you like a hot potato, not respond to your calls, texts or emails and stop initiating any contact. Why? It is often hard to know. Don't take it personally. You are not being treated this way because the other person is so perfect and they saw your imperfections and deemed you unworthy of their time and attention. They aren't perfect and you are worthy of love despite your imperfections.
2. Your diet isn’t just what you eat
Your diet isn’t just what you eat, it’s what you watch, what you read, who you follow and who you spend your time with.
So if your goal is to have a healthier mind, you have to start by removing all the junk from your diet.
3. Never let rejection lead to self-rejection
A person who has experienced rejection fears rejection, and a person that fears rejection tends to push or run away before they can be rejected.
In their subconscious mind they have avoided rejection.
In reality, they’ve been rejected again — this time by themselves.
Your diet isn’t just what you eat, it’s what you watch, what you read, who you follow and who you spend your time with.
So if your goal is to have a healthier mind, you have to start by removing all the junk from your diet.
3. Never let rejection lead to self-rejection
A person who has experienced rejection fears rejection, and a person that fears rejection tends to push or run away before they can be rejected.
In their subconscious mind they have avoided rejection.
In reality, they’ve been rejected again — this time by themselves.
4. Own your responsibilities, own your future
You’re not responsible for your trauma but you are responsible for breaking the cycle and not hurting more people because of what happened to you.
You will never control your future if you let your present be controlled by your past.
What happened yesterday may not be your responsibility, but how you behave today is.
You’re not responsible for your trauma but you are responsible for breaking the cycle and not hurting more people because of what happened to you.
You will never control your future if you let your present be controlled by your past.
What happened yesterday may not be your responsibility, but how you behave today is.
5. Fairytales will make you unhappy
Obsessing over the things that society said you’re “supposed to do” will kill your happiness.
Don’t listen to the fake fairytales of how your life is supposed to be going.
Everyone is different, and your path to happiness will be too.
6. Don’t help someone who doesn’t want your help
Trying to help someone who doesn’t even want your help is one of the worst feelings in the world — especially if you genuinely care about that person.
The truth is, you can’t change anyone but yourself.
Even if you believe you know what someone needs, you can’t force them to do (or avoid) anything if they’re not ready for it.
Instead of trying to help people who’re not open to your support, try leading by example and focus on yourself.
Obsessing over the things that society said you’re “supposed to do” will kill your happiness.
Don’t listen to the fake fairytales of how your life is supposed to be going.
Everyone is different, and your path to happiness will be too.
6. Don’t help someone who doesn’t want your help
Trying to help someone who doesn’t even want your help is one of the worst feelings in the world — especially if you genuinely care about that person.
The truth is, you can’t change anyone but yourself.
Even if you believe you know what someone needs, you can’t force them to do (or avoid) anything if they’re not ready for it.
Instead of trying to help people who’re not open to your support, try leading by example and focus on yourself.
7. Great things are where you want to see them
Research proves that being grateful increases our happiness because it makes us more aware of our blessings.
Focusing on the things that don’t go well in your life is significantly easier, yet, it also makes you feel miserable.
Instead of constantly aiming for more, take a moment to think about all the blessings you’re already surrounded by.
Take a minute of your day and write down at least 3–5 things you’re genuinely grateful for.
This practice won’t magically change your life, but it’ll help you shift your focus from lack to abundance.
Research proves that being grateful increases our happiness because it makes us more aware of our blessings.
Focusing on the things that don’t go well in your life is significantly easier, yet, it also makes you feel miserable.
Instead of constantly aiming for more, take a moment to think about all the blessings you’re already surrounded by.
Take a minute of your day and write down at least 3–5 things you’re genuinely grateful for.
This practice won’t magically change your life, but it’ll help you shift your focus from lack to abundance.
8. Being alone is better than being surrounded by the wrong people
Most people fear spending time alone because that’s when they’re alone with their fears and insecurities.
But the harsh truth is, being alone is always better than being around the wrong people.
If you can’t sit still in silence and be alone with your thoughts for a while, it’s just a sign that you have unresolved issues bothering you. And there’s nothing wrong with that as long as you decide to take care of it and work on making peace with your past and yourself.
Just make sure you don’t end up making space for others just to escape your own company.
You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.
9. You are only fighting yourself
You are your biggest enemy.
No one can make you feel bad if you don’t allow them to do so.
The only person you’ll ever have to beat is yourself.
And the only person you should ever compare yourself to is your past self.
It’s not about beating the other guy. It’s not about having more than the others. It’s about being what you are, and being as good as possible at it, without succumbing to all the things that draw you away from it. It’s about going where you set out to go. About accomplishing the most that you’re capable of in what you choose.
10. Everyone is different
Even though our societal systems try to ignore it, the truth is that we’re all different.
Stop comparing yourself to others and listening to fairy tales about how your life *should* look like.
Everyone’s path to fulfillment and happiness is different, and judging others is none of your business.
Most people don’t think like you.
What makes sense to you might sound like nonsense to someone else, and vice versa.
But just because someone doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean you’re wrong. And just because you disagree with someone doesn’t mean they are wrong.
Stop trying to impose your point of view on everyone else and start listening more carefully.
You don’t need to agree with everything others say or think. You just need to respect each other’s voices and opinions so you can get along despite the differences.
11. You can create your own definition of “rich”
Even though many people spend the majority of their lives trying to make more money, the truth is that money itself doesn’t necessarily make you “rich” or happy.
You can make a million dollars and spend a million dollars on alcohol, cigarettes, and parties that make you feel empty instead of rich.
Real richness is defined by how you make your decisions, how you spend your time, and how happy you ultimately feel - and of course being satisfied with what you have.
Stop fighting for goals you think you should achieve and start creating your own definition of “happy” and “rich.”
Just because many people enjoy traveling and visiting exotic places doesn’t mean you need to travel and see the world to be happy.
Just because most people admire fancy cars doesn’t mean you need one.
Living a rich life starts with being aware of your blessings.
Sure, you want more, but you’ll never find joy in having more if you can’t celebrate having little.
Every single day, you’re experiencing a miracle when you get to open your eyes and start another day of your life. And it’s up to you to celebrate the small blessings you usually take for granted throughout the day.
No matter how hard life seems to be, you’re blessed with a body that carries you through the day. You can breathe, think, and make new decisions.
And as long as you can do that, you have the opportunity to make a change — and that’s the biggest richness of life.
A few years ago, my grandfather passed away in the intensive care unit after fighting cancer for just a few months. When I saw him for the last time, he could not move or speak anymore. Seeing him being so helpless in his last hours of life taught me a crucial lesson: Don’t ever take your health for granted.
In your last moments of life, you probably won’t care about how much money you made or had.
You won’t care about those annoying coworkers or about the certification you didn’t complete.
You’ll look back at your life and wonder how you could’ve been a little happier and more present when being around those you love.
Ask yourself what yours is and how you can create a life that’s covered in peace and love instead of “things.”
Most people fear spending time alone because that’s when they’re alone with their fears and insecurities.
But the harsh truth is, being alone is always better than being around the wrong people.
If you can’t sit still in silence and be alone with your thoughts for a while, it’s just a sign that you have unresolved issues bothering you. And there’s nothing wrong with that as long as you decide to take care of it and work on making peace with your past and yourself.
Just make sure you don’t end up making space for others just to escape your own company.
You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.
9. You are only fighting yourself
You are your biggest enemy.
No one can make you feel bad if you don’t allow them to do so.
The only person you’ll ever have to beat is yourself.
And the only person you should ever compare yourself to is your past self.
It’s not about beating the other guy. It’s not about having more than the others. It’s about being what you are, and being as good as possible at it, without succumbing to all the things that draw you away from it. It’s about going where you set out to go. About accomplishing the most that you’re capable of in what you choose.
10. Everyone is different
Even though our societal systems try to ignore it, the truth is that we’re all different.
Stop comparing yourself to others and listening to fairy tales about how your life *should* look like.
Everyone’s path to fulfillment and happiness is different, and judging others is none of your business.
Most people don’t think like you.
What makes sense to you might sound like nonsense to someone else, and vice versa.
But just because someone doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean you’re wrong. And just because you disagree with someone doesn’t mean they are wrong.
Stop trying to impose your point of view on everyone else and start listening more carefully.
You don’t need to agree with everything others say or think. You just need to respect each other’s voices and opinions so you can get along despite the differences.
11. You can create your own definition of “rich”
Even though many people spend the majority of their lives trying to make more money, the truth is that money itself doesn’t necessarily make you “rich” or happy.
You can make a million dollars and spend a million dollars on alcohol, cigarettes, and parties that make you feel empty instead of rich.
Real richness is defined by how you make your decisions, how you spend your time, and how happy you ultimately feel - and of course being satisfied with what you have.
Stop fighting for goals you think you should achieve and start creating your own definition of “happy” and “rich.”
Just because many people enjoy traveling and visiting exotic places doesn’t mean you need to travel and see the world to be happy.
Just because most people admire fancy cars doesn’t mean you need one.
Living a rich life starts with being aware of your blessings.
Sure, you want more, but you’ll never find joy in having more if you can’t celebrate having little.
Every single day, you’re experiencing a miracle when you get to open your eyes and start another day of your life. And it’s up to you to celebrate the small blessings you usually take for granted throughout the day.
No matter how hard life seems to be, you’re blessed with a body that carries you through the day. You can breathe, think, and make new decisions.
And as long as you can do that, you have the opportunity to make a change — and that’s the biggest richness of life.
A few years ago, my grandfather passed away in the intensive care unit after fighting cancer for just a few months. When I saw him for the last time, he could not move or speak anymore. Seeing him being so helpless in his last hours of life taught me a crucial lesson: Don’t ever take your health for granted.
In your last moments of life, you probably won’t care about how much money you made or had.
You won’t care about those annoying coworkers or about the certification you didn’t complete.
You’ll look back at your life and wonder how you could’ve been a little happier and more present when being around those you love.
Ask yourself what yours is and how you can create a life that’s covered in peace and love instead of “things.”
