לרפואת חיה יוכבד פייגע בת מיכל יהודית בתיה בתוך שח"י!!!!
"The people you think are the happiest are usually the saddest; that's
because they see more and feel deeper than others do. They are the
sensitive and they see beyond the veil of what's tangible and what's
not. They wear no masks and can see through the masks of others."
“You know, people are very, very sensitive. No one takes into account how sensitive a person really is… Everybody is terribly sensitive. And other people don’t understand how sensitive a human being is. They don’t understand it. So they run roughshod over everybody.”
SHALLLLLLLLLLLLOOMM SWEEEETEST FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHATTA PARSHA. SO MANY MITZVOS!!!!!!!!!!! IT IS LIKE HITTING THE JACKPOT!!! Like when your stock investment goes the the ROOF!!! Each mitzva another opportunity to get closer and closer to Hashem and to be closer to perfection.
Let us talk about just one לא תעשה in this week's Parsha:
אִם־עַנֵּ֥ה תְעַנֶּ֖ה אֹת֑וֹ כִּ֣י אִם־צָעֹ֤ק יִצְעַק֙ אֵלַ֔י שָׁמֹ֥עַ אֶשְׁמַ֖ע צַעֲקָתֽוֹ
וְחָרָ֣ה אַפִּ֔י וְהָרַגְתִּ֥י אֶתְכֶ֖ם בֶּחָ֑רֶב וְהָי֤וּ נְשֵׁיכֶם֙ אַלְמָנ֔וֹת וּבְנֵיכֶ֖ם יְתֹמִֽים
You shall not cause pain (afflict) to any widow or orphan, for if you afflict, afflict (surely afflict) him, if he shall cry, cry out to Me, I will hear, hear his outcry. My wrath shall blaze through My nostrils (vechoro api) and I shall kill you by the sword, and your wives will be widows and your children orphans.
This is indeed STROONGGGGGG language. The only other times Hashem refers to
His
anger as “blazing
through His nostrils”
is when He admonishes us against worshipping strange gods. Like - one of
the three cardinal sins [contrary to popular opinion -- having doubles
on a really fatty dessert is not on the list...]. So hurting the
feelings of a widow or orphan is SERIOUS business!!!
How can we understand the "double lashon" [called in SAT English "tautology"] of ענה תענה [afflict], צעק יצעק [cry out] and שמוע אשמע [hear]???
It is said in the name of the Kotzker: Every time one hurts an orphan or widow it is a DOUBLE hurt and hence the double cry and double hearing from Hashem. The first hurt is what was actually said or done. The second is the thought that this person had that if their husband/parent were alive then they would be there to defend them and maybe the person wouldn't have even started up with them in the first place. So all emotional harm caused by others might bring out renewed feelings of loss and mourning!! That explains the double hurt, double cry and double hearing of Hashem.
Rashi says that this pasuk refers to EVERY person and only specifies the orphan and widow b/c it is more common to start with them.
So we can go a step further and say that for EVERY person it is possibly a double hurt. One - what was said or done. Two - We all have feelings of pain or insecurity that we carry around for YEARS which we never totally let go of. These feelings just lie dormant and when insulted they come out with a renewed vigor.
Example: A person feels unloved and uncared for. Then someone makes an obnoxious remark and these feelings resurface besides the pain of the actual remark.
Another example: A person has low self esteem. He/she
feels like a failure. Then someone points out what a failure one is in a
certain area. Those latent feeling then are felt again. This person
confirmed our feelings of failure. That is a DOUBLE pain!!!
And
maybe there is ANOTHER explanation for the tautology. We make one
comment and forget about it. But the person to whom it was directed
walks around with it for YEARS!!!! So it is not one time you said it but
THOUSANDS of times that the person repeats it in their head. There are
people who say hurtful things and DECADES LATER these comments still
play themselves over in one's mind. OF COURSE one must let go of the
pain but there is an almost INSTINCTIVE mechanism in our psyche that
brings old hurts to the fore. So the Torah says ענה תענה - you are
afflicting them AGAIN AND AGAIN!!!!
FRIGHTENINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!
HOLY BELOVED FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!
The
world has ENOUGH toxicity, insensitivity, anger, rancor, malevolence,
malice and venom. We are DESPERATELY in need of more love, sensitivity,
consideration and care. Who doesn't enjoy hearing a good word? We ALL
do!!! So if you have a mouth [or keyboard] - USE IT!! Spread
goodness!!!!!!!!! Tell people how much they mean to you, what their
talents are as you see them, how much you appreciate what they have
done, how much you think they can accomplish in the future with their
abilities etc. etc. Tell people you love them. It is OK. I do it all the
time and haven't gotten arrested yet!!! At funerals people always ask
the dead person for forgiveness if they didn't properly respect and
honor them. BY GOLLY - we are all dying eventually 
so why wait till
it's too late??? HONOR THEM NOW!!!! 
If you are one of the
very few Jews left not in Florida 
- KEEP WARM IN THESE FREEZING
TIMES!! But more importantly - WARM OTHERS!!!!! And even those enjoying
fun-in-sun can warm the HEARTS of others!!!
Have a yabba-dabba-do-Shabbos of enhanced sensitivity and hopefully that will arouse sensitivity from Shomayim and we will see yeshuos ba-kol!!!!!!!!!!
MUCH LOVE,
Me
