There are 86,400 seconds in a day, every day. It is quite consistent:-).
We judge people. We HAVE to judge people from time to time. Should I trust him or not? Does he have my best interests in mind or his own? Is he a danger or not etc. etc. We often judge even when not necessary
But after the "trial" is over it is worth reminding ourselves - there are 86,400 seconds a day and of those we are not even present with this person for the majority of those secods. And even when we are with this person we can never know what this person is thinking and what his true intentions are.
So most of our judgments sare based on insufficient information and we judge anyway b/c it gives us comfort and a sense of control.
But ultimately, if I may quote my friends and cousins from the descendents of Cham from my youth - we don't know nothin'....
Why does a person get tzaraas for lashon hara? Because you took one negative nekuda in this person and reduced him to that. As a punishment - the speaker gets one little nekudah on his body that makes his entire self tamei!!
Do you want to be more loving and tolerant? Remind yourself that you really don't know this person, what their struggles are, what they experienced in the past, the trauma, the sadness, the fears, the infinite number of problems they may have had or have.
