Sunday, May 6, 2018

Bitachon And Personal Responsibility

לרפואת הודי-ה בת סיגל הדסה

An important principle in life: There are different domains and different categories which shouldn't be confused or conflated. What is correct in one domain is incorrect in another.

Let us give two examples:

1] Somebody steals from someone else or harms him in some way. In the domain of Bitachon in Hashem one must believe that this was decreed from Shomayim. Like the story of Dovid Hamelech and Shimei ben Gera [Shmuel 2/16]: 

As King David approached Bachurim, a man from the same clan as Shaul’s family came out from there. His name was Shimei son of Gera, and he cursed as he came out. 
He pelted David and all the king’s officials with stones, though all the troops and the special guard were on David’s right and left. 
As he cursed, Shimei said, “Get out, get out, you murderer, you scoundrel! 
Hashem has repaid you for all the blood you shed in the household of Shaul, in whose place you have reigned. Hashem has given the kingdom into the hands of your son Avshalom. You have come to ruin because you are a murderer!”
 Then Avishai son of Tzruiah said to the king, “Why should this dead dog curse my lord the king? Let me go over and cut off his head.”
But the king said, “What does this have to do with you, you sons of Tzruiah? If he is cursing because Hashem said to him, ‘Curse David,’ who can ask, ‘Why do you do this?’”
Dovid then said to Avishai and all his officials, “My son, my own flesh and blood, is trying to kill me. How much more, then, this Benjamite! Leave him alone; let him curse, for Hashem has told him to. 
It may be that Hashem will look upon my misery and restore to me his covenant blessing instead of his curse today.”

Yet, before Dovid died, he commanded Shlomo his son to punish Shmei. 

Be sure to do something about Shimei son of Gera from Bachurim in the territory of Benjamin. He cursed and insulted me the day I went to Machanaim. But later, when he came to meet me at the Jordan River, I promised that I wouldn’t kill him. Now you must punish him. He’s an old man, but you’re wise enough to know that you must have him killed.

Whyyyyy?? It was all from Hashem - right? So why punish him?? The answer is that when it comes to taking my own personal revenge, I must understand that everything comes from Hashem. But when it comes to carrying our justice [which Dovid saw as necessary before he died and thus had no personal stake], then every person is held responsible for his actions. In a court of law there is no room for "Hashem made him do it". [See Igros Pachad Yitzchak Number 43]

So when someone harms you, remember that it is from Hashem. But if you have legal recourse, you may take it.

2] When someone comes for financial help then you must help them and have NO BITACHON in Hashem that He will help. YOU must help. At the same time, one must also know that no matter whether you give or not, Hashem will help him if He so chooses. He doesn't need your help....   

This principal has many applications. ישמע חכם ויוסף לקח.